When I argue or debate I have a tendency to get really frustrated and angry and this affects my arguing skills. Just... some people are sooo stupid and ignorant that I feel like resorting to violence or sometimes I have to refrain from arguing altogether because it feels like my head will explode. Maybe I'll resort to immature ad hominem but none of that will get me anywhere so how do I keep my cool and school some fools with style and maturity? (dat rhyme tho)
How do you keep cool and calm when arguing with someone?
What Girls Said 4
I know how you feel, sometimes you can't help but get frustrated and annoyed at the stupidity and ignorance of other people.
Most of the people I argue with, have said something offensive in the first place or completely generalized something and to me if they're going to be that dumb, then why do I have to keep my cool when they just said something completely offensive in the first place.
People are always so hard on people who lose their cool in arguments but those are normally the people who are perfectly happy being stupid lol
That being said, I don't really have much of a temper at all but I do get easily annoyed with stupidity.1
Just try to stay cool and think like; omg is this person serious right now? If its that obvious they probably know that they're wrong themselves. Also, maybe you have to reflect on yourself a little bit more during discussions and maybe let another opinion in. I know the feeling because I always want to be right when im having discussions, and usually I just think, okay I'm not gonna waste my time on this bullshit because like its not gonna bring me anything good, and clearly this person has no idea whats going on, so im gonna be the better man and say something like: Okay, well i disagree but whatever1
I just think about where my actions will bring me. Will they help yhe other perdon to understand my stance? Will it insult the other person? Will things escalate? Will the problem be solved?
Or sometimes it helps you to ask yourself this:
"If i were to die tomorrow, was this situation worth getting angry or frustrated about?"
(The answer to that question is mostly no for me)0
I don't keep cool or calm... I go ham on their ass1
What Guys Said 10
I just listen to what they are saying and find loopholes in their arguments and then come with a counter lol.1
I'm a calm person naturally. My parents would always yell when things didn't go their way... and then they say the silliest things
I just swore to myself to never be like them when I was just a pup :)
When I argue, I'm usually calm, and the moment the other snaps... We both know who's winning the argument here1
I don't really get invovled in arguments for that reason and debate very rarely.0
Instead of focusing on style and maturity, just have fun. Arguments are fun. You can polish your insults, twist your logic and flex your defenses.0
Honestly, I have no idea. I'm not easily bothered so I never really lose my cool.0
I try to humiliate them.0
Easy, I never argue to win, I argue to honestly explore the question. I could care less what the person I'm arguing with thinks, they are only there to provide insights, not to be convinced of anything.1