Let's be honest, who really benefited from this stupid advice?
To be frank, it's frustrating when you have a bad day and someone goes "OH! STAY POSITIVE AND THINGS WOULD GET BETTER!!!" when some REALLY doesn't want to hear it. It's the second useless advice right after "Be Yourself" crap!
Not everything in life if you put a cherry on top that it's going to get better. When life keeps fucking things up for you on every turn, how the hell can you feel positive?
Getting fired after 4 days of work... never had a girlfriend... all my goals had never been fullfilled even when I worked my ass off for it. Yeah! So much for hard work paying off bullshit!
So, tell me... how does "Stay positive" going to help me, eh? If I kept being "positive" will I ever work for Disney or bigger companies?
Most Helpful Girl
Uhm a lot of people saying that are trying to help you. It's very difficult to sometimes know what to say to someone going through a bad time. I really doubt people who say that mean it in a bad way. To them they want to help but they don't know how always. Besides you know what when I'm going through a bad time I actually like people telling me it will be OK. You can't expect everyone to magically know exactly what to say during your worst times. They're only trying to help. Pity if you can't see that.0
Most Helpful Guy
It's not really about staying positive or being yourself. Everything can basically be summarized as, keep on trying. No matter how matter how depressed you are or how many times you fail; as long as you keep trying, your chances of not failing are greater than if you don't try
I'm not saying this to try to cheer you up or to give advice, but things can't possibly get better unless you try. Some people are motivated by positivity and such. Lots of people think simplified words make thing better. Sometimes we need individual advice based on our individual emotions. Positivity will do nothing for them
As for being yourself. As far as anyone knows, it's impossible to be someone other than oneself. No matter how you act, you will always be acting according to who you are. Perhaps it's not about acting as oneself, but figuring out who you are. Perhaps your personality isn't very likable. Perhaps you need to figure out what about your personality isn't likable
Maybe it's not your personality, but something else. Isolate situations with people. Try to figure out your actions and reactions. Ask others to be honest about certain situations you are in. But you have to be open to their criticism
Once again, I'm not saying you are the problem. But you should try to be open to the option. Perhaps you need to change your goals. Ones that can give you little successes. Trick your brain into giving you the satisfaction. Then build up from there
If one option or way of life isn't working for you, then you may want to try something else. It doesn't matter if it feels like a waste of time to go with another option. Everything we do has little importance; whether we are happy or sad, successful or failures, it's all just movement to cause the next movement
Your life may just be filled with failures, but perhaps it caused the success of countless others. And you wonder, where is mine; where is my happiness. Not everyone's happiness looks the same. Not everyone's happiness looks the way they want it too. It's all about options; how you interpret those options, how you share those options, and how you build on them
I'm not saying this as a personal response to your question. I know I mentioned "you", and that can be interpreted as singular and represent the asker. But I mean it in a plural way as a response to those that give the positivity and be yourself advice
Sorry if this reply is irrelevant to your question, or just didn't answer it. Hope you find your answer.0