So my friends organised a surprise birthday party for me yesterday at one of their houses and everyone was there except my boyfriend. We've been together for 4 years. When I asked my friends why he wasn't here they replied by saying that they sent him an invitation and even called several times to make sure he was informed. When I called him to ask why he wasn't there he said he totally forgot it was my birthday and when I got home and tried talking to him saying, I'm disappointed that he didn't remember and was upset that he wasn't there. Instead he gets mad at me saying his human and allowed to make mistakes and that its just a date and then he said that he hadn't forgetten in the past three years and that I shouldn't have reacted and that it didn't really matter if he wasn't there once. Instead of me being mad, he ended up getting mad.
am I the wrong one for being upset? Is him being mad okay?
Most Helpful Guy
This kind of stuff is bound to happen. Was it really important enough for you to go through that? Was both of you being mad worth it? I understand that it sucks that he wasn't at your party but if he is at all like me, he simply forgot. He probably forgets lots of things. It's not that I wouldn't go, I would just forget that it is today. I would be a little pissed about not being there but I would quickly move on. I think you should have too. He can always do something for you the next day or something. It's not a good reason for people to get mad at each other.0
Most Helpful Girl
You every right to be upset.
But at the same time, you shouldn't be too hard at him because there's nothing he can do to change the past.
I would expect that he tried to make it up to you (by taking you out) and apologizing (instead of getting defensive about it).
The way in which you approached the topic may have triggered his reaction.
I think you should let this go.
If he's usually good at remembering your birthday , you shouldn't kill him over one time ( I know it's very upsetting ).
Allow him to patch things up with you.. instead of making him feel more bad about it.
He can't go back into the pass and fix things.
I think you should attempt to talk to him again.
Apologize (on your behalf) for seeming as if you wanted to pick a fight with him.
Let him know that you were just very hurt and disappointed.
He will probably apologize on his behalf as well.
Move forward for this.
Make up with each other.
You both love one another... I think you should try to move past this instead of creating an even bigger issue of what already is.0