Last summer I started talking to a girl. I was crazy about her, and she definitely liked me too. However, due to extreme shyness and lack of experience, I messed it up. I would text her everyday and see her every weekend, yet I never made a move, kissed her, or even confessed my feelings for her. So we remained just friends.
Despite people telling me not to, I still talk to her a lot. We officially established we were just friends when she got a boyfriend in March (who she has since broken up with and started dating a new guy). I don't really like her anymore, but I can't help but think to last summer when I did like her. For example, I'll think to myself "A year ago today we were hanging out. Should of made a move that night. This past year would of been so much better."
I obviously have a lot of regrets that I can't stop dwelling on. Any advice on making these thoughts go away?
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I'm in pretty much the exact same boat. She kept dating douches while totally ignoring me, and it hurt. Like those cheating scum were better than her closest companion.
My advice? Stop talking to her. Block her, do whatever you've got to do to get over it NOW. I've continued to talk with Cheyenne off and on for four years after messing things up, and it's only gotten worse.
Our relationship is ruined. I guess it was doomed from the moment I said I loved her. Even now, I'm having a hard time moving on. I keep getting my hopes up over small things, only to have them squashed later on.
It's not worth the rollercoaster of ups and downs.
Go out in public. Be around other people. Just the other day, I had a great time with a really cute girl at King's Island, but ended up losing her in the crowd before we could swap info. A real shame, because we really hit it off.
Story of my life, but it doesn't have to be yours. Go out there and be that guy, bro. You can do it. Don't worry about being shy. That was my mistake. You'll end up in an insecure self-doubt spiral that leads nowhere.
Just smile, have fun. Laugh. Do things. Talk. Be spontaneously YOU!
I've got faith in you.0
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