How to tell if you're asexual or demisexual?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • If you have a close bond with a guy, then it is possible that you’re demisexual. How to tell would be: are you closer to him than anyone else? Do you have other friends who are equally close to you? Other friends who are guys? Cause the whole thing is that, in the simplest terms, demisexuality is about only feeling sexual attraction when you have a close bond with someone. But what constitutes a close bond is different from demi to demi. So if you aren’t as close to him as you are to other people, you may not be demi. If you don’t have other guy friends who you are as close or closer to, though, you might still be demi - because you can have gender preference while being demi. So you might be closer to girl and non-binary friends, but they might not do it for you the way that guys do.
    You could also be gray-asexual, where he’s just kind of this one weird exception to being asexual that makes it all confusing.

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    • Not really. A close bond could just be romantic attraction, and even then it might not necessarily be. Asexual people can still experience romantic attraction.

    • True, if you use sex as an expression of romantic or emotional attraction (love) rather than because you are driven to do so by a sex drive, then that need not contradict an asexual identity.

Most Helpful Girl

  • If you don't experience sexual attraction at all ever, then you're asexual. If you do experience it, just only with people you're already close to, then demisexual. Also, you shouldn't feel any need to label yourself if you don't want to. Labels can give you security, but it's also fine to just not be entirely sure what your sexuality is.

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What Guys Said 2

  • I guess you just wait and see, right?

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  • Asexual means you don't want sex at all, ever, and demisexual means you need to have an emotional connection to someone before you are sexually attracted to them.

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What Girls Said 1

  • Is easy. When you see someone, you think "wow that person is gorgeous", while sexual people think " wow that person is gorgeous i'd totally fuck with them"

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