GAGers! does any of you know how to stop catching feelings for someone? :'( :( ?

everything is in the title.. so any solutions?

GAGers! does any of you know how to stop catching feelings for someone? :'( :( ?



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any solutions please?

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  • 1. Yes ONE - use your head, not your heart :)
    2. I catch feelings too pretty fast but I use my rationale than just feelings and it works :D
    3. You can't stop catching feelings but you sure can be at ease with it :)
    4. More you try to stifle something, the more you'll sink in. It's like quicksand :D

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    • its more easy to say than to do :(

    • Most of what I write here is what I've already practiced :) I never write anything hypothetically :D THIS I practice which is why I write :) :)

  • We're all human in the end, so you can't just stop having feelings for someone. With that said, probably the worst thing you can do is try to suppress it by making yourself busy.

    Don't try to stop it, come to terms with it. Meditate or just take some time to sit down alone and think over the situation. Its painful to deal with, but pain is just weakness leaving the body :)

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    • seems more easy to say that to do.. but i appreciate your opinion... but why is it the worst thing to do? i mean keeping myself busy to supress it?

    • Its actually pretty easy to do. Whenever I find my mind focusing on one thing for too long, I try to take some time out to really think over the details to try and come to terms with it. The only hard part is how much time that would take.

      I find actively trying to keep yourself busy just builds it up more. Whatever you're keeping yourself busy with won't last forever, and in that moment of stopping, what you were bottling up just surges out.

  • You need to cut them out of your life asap so that way you can start the process of not being around them, the less contact in any way, shape or form the better. By not doing this only keeps that little inkling of a thought alive and you know what I mean, I've been there.

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    • but i have developed feelings for him...

    • @Asker - Does the guy know, maybe by simply vocalizing you can realize that its not all that?

  • You don't.

    Also if you think you don't stand a chance in getting that person, that's part of the reason you don't have them. A large one.

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  • yopu don't catch those feelings , you are entertaining them and feeding them , If you want to stop, take that person off the pedestal you put him on and make a list of his faults and bad habits and you'll see , he's probably very ordinary , its your image of him that is unrealistic and one better, don't bring him down from the pedestal, kick his ass off of it , smash him a bit and you'll see the light and your feelings will change

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  • Ask a miserable, bitter person like me what they think about humans. Then realize that your crush is a human too. It really shouldn't take more than that. Falling in love with someone simply means putting them on a pedestal and failing to see their flaws (or re-interpreting them as endearing imperfections) due to hormone-induced stupidity. Being self-aware of that greatly helps you snap out of it. Always take time to think things through.

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  • Just ask yourself ' How many people in the past I fell for in the beginning, only to forget them a few months down the line? '

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    • i'm not the type of person too fall for any kind of person easily... but this time... that person seems to be the right person

    • Seems.. Because you have build up an image about him. And you can't see his flaws. The best way to avoid this is talk about him to someone who hates ( or at least dislikes him). eg. an old friend or an ex. He'll/She'll start to point out he flaws which you'd never notice. Try to assess your feelings after that.

  • Unfortunately, I don't think you can't. However, what you can do is not act on those feelings and even change your mindset slowly. Eventually, unacted emotions with a changed mindset should help you get rid of unwanted feelings you may be building up. Good luck! :)

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    • You can also meet more new people and spend less time with the person or thing you're catching feelings for. You can as well make yourself more busy, as I found out that a really busy schedule helps distract your mind and feelings because you become more focus on accomplishing your tasks.

  • If you're talking to a guy and don't want have feelings for him
    just try not getting close to him and don't make yourself available
    for him all the time and just let things go with the flow.

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  • See humans as homo-sapiens, mindless drones, or objects that way you won't get attached,
    also people enjoy being objectified these days so its cool!
    so just objectify other humans! #Ourlivesdontmatter #Loveisaweakemotion
    #ObjectiveObjectification

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  • ''Catching Feelings'', Maybe its just my stupidity here (And most likely), But what do you mean by that?

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    • stupidity? really? when you will know what it means to have feelings for someone but when in return the person doesn't feel the same then we'll see

    • Oh, I wasn't saying the phrase was stupid D:, I was saying i was stupid for not understanding it, Sorry if i accidently upset you there.

      And, Just be miserable and dont talk to anyone? :)

  • Picture their corpse with flies and maggots all over it... works every time.

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  • I too would like to know the answer. :/

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  • Simple focus on you :)

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  • I think you just have to be that kind of person that is pretty detached from their emotions.

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  • It is like the quest for blue rose (though genetic engineering has made it possible to make blue roses). I feel the same Don't get me wrong but I want to focus on my work.

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  • i guess by finding one you love is the only chance...

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  • Stop infatuating or thinking about them when they're not around.

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  • Think of the guy as a douchebag.

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  • Is it a new guy or ex..

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    • someone am actually talking to

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    • @KempisMC
      Oh you are nearly of my dad's age :-)
      But you know that girls are like brittle glass that needs to be handled with care. I don't think she wants any logical answer because she already knows that. She was depressed and people when depressed often have tendency to share their inner feelings or frustration such that they only want someone to lend a shoulder to them and listen ;-).

    • It can only make her stronger, I don't agree with your assessment , I have 4 sisters and little advice we give here are nothing to te tragedies of life , so a reality that you are her might not want to see, is not sugar coating something that has an advice you survive ,
      Too many people are afraid to hurt others and walk away from a NON cruel truth , and they miss the opportunity for growth.

  • The answer is: no! Nature does its work and if you love someone you love the person.
    And don't be too quick in thinking you don't have a chance. Dare to go for it!
    A smile makes guys weak, I swear :D :D

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  • Ask them out once and get rejected. You'll lose feelings pretty quick.

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  • Get yourselves a handsome asshole

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    • that would be easy here, lots of them on GAG, maybe they are not assholes, but they give asshole answers and replies.

    • As long as you can't delete your replies, it will continue to happen.

  • Im right here babe. U dont have to look far and wide for the one 😘

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What Girls Said 19

  • It's Hard when we are Not Robots with buttons to just Push One and Make it go Off @zombiebabe. However, if you do what I would do in a case, with a face, that you cannot Forget or run from, Tell yourself it''s Just... Mind over matter, I need to be strong.
    No contact is probably the Best from the Rest if all possible. But if it isn't so and your heart has this Overflow, try staying lite and semi sweet friends, keep everything under control and be strong to get through it.
    It's easier if the One you are Pining isn't whining for you, to Not stay in touch or just lose his number. But if it is with a sticky situation where you Have to be face to face, due to whatever atmosphere you are in or it is How it is right now, bite your lip, be civil, and let time heal the war wounds because you have pushed your own buttons into Knowing That... I need to stop catching feelings.
    Good luck and you're stronger than you even know, sweet girl. xxoo

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    • thanks for your opinion Paris... do you know any more way to be stronger?

    • Yes, I nearly Forgot, @zombiebabe, which Has helped me when I was in love once with my First Love and I broke it off because he was immature and although he loved me, we were teens and he was just too immature at the time to show More than I wanted... I got together with Friends, socialized, dated others and kept my mind busy and it really helped heal the war wounds slowly.:)) xxoo

    • Glad to have been of some serivce, @zombiebabe, hoping you feel better soon.:)) xxoo

  • It's not a bad thing! It's actually good if you consider the opposite. Isn't it better to have so much feelings and be so open to having them with other people then feeling nothing at all? Yes you do get hurt more often but it's better to take chances and to be open to that

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  • Go no contact with person. If you want the person in your life it can be temporary-say a month. During that time focus on you and talk to other guys. Once feelings are past, you can resume contact, BUT act like friends. Don't text all day every day, don't share like you would a boyfriend. Treat each other as FRIENDS. No emotional intimacy.

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  • It used to be a problem for me but the more I got to know those people the less I liked them...
    So now I don't like anyone (romantically) unless I know them and I know I like their personality...

    Remind yourself that people most often aren't what you want them to be. So first get to know them and then decide if it's cool having feelings for them.
    Sometimes, I know, it's difficult to control it. But logic helped me out. =)

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  • Hmm maybe keep reminding yourself of the reasons why a relationship wouldn't work or focus on the negative things you notice about that person - if you don't notice any, it's probably too late.. But why don't you wanna fall in love?

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  • Get another man!. I have the same situation as you too, but we unfortunately had to resort to avoidance. If he is some-one close to the social life then keep conversation brief, I assume it is best not to go out unless it was for social conventions. Until Prince Charming comes along, just relax and everything could go back to the easy road :D

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  • You can not stop ; it is there Zombie.
    If I were you; I would just live it in a most brave way and face my feelings.
    And if you burry them; they will grow more. So live it as it is.

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    • so i should live with it? man it hurts

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    • okay thanks for your help :)

    • no problem. good luck :)

  • Yup just have no feelings at all. People call me a robot. But I'd rather be a robot than go through such nonsense.

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  • Maybe ask yourself why you keep falling for people who are unavailable and unable to return the feelings you have? Don't you want to be in a happy mutually beneficial relationship where someone loves you too? Are you scared you're not lovable?

    There's lots of reasons why girls or guys chase unavailable people and if that's truly the only people you fall for you gotta search deeper for answers ;)

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  • Just think about really messed up things about that person.
    Example

    Guy I liked, told me he used to "smash" a lot of "chicks". Knew he wasn't the faithful type so I just put that in my head didn't want to be one of the "chicks" on his list

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  • I caught feelings for my boyfriend super fast. First time in years it's happened. I couldn't help it nor stop it. Sure I'm afraid but I've accepted it. I know he has feelings for me too but he isn't too keen on expressing it or admitting it :/

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  • Best answer is a poem by Wendy Cope: Two Cures for Love

    1) The hard way: don't phone or write a letter
    2) The easy way: get to know them better

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  • Oh. Did anything happen since last time we spoke?

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  • you have to make it happen.
    don't give up.

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  • stop meeting the person. stop seeing his social media or Maybe you need to do things that will make your mind off it? I don't know since I feel the same way to but for me reading a lot makes it go away for a while.

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  • I runaway screaming

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  • Stop giving people chances & think rationally sometimes.

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  • I WISH, I WISH, I WISH I KNEW HOW TO STOP THE INSANITY!!!

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  • I wish i knew the answer to that.

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