Seriously, all you have to do is not do anything at all. On a diet? Don't eat that slice of cake. In a relationship? Don't have sex with someone who isn't your SO. Why is it so difficult for people?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, not all people are blessed with the same amount of self-discipline. Do you eat meat? If yes, why? It's healthier to be vegetarian, plus eating meat is EXTREMELY bad for the environment. Yet, you probably eat it. You might even feel a little bad about it as I do, but you still eat it. Why? Because you like it and because it's hard to deny oneself the pleasure.
As for having sex with other people than you're SO. While I don't condone cheating (having sex behind your partner's back), I also had to laugh a bit about this part. No offense, but you're a teenager. You might think you already know everything about the world (all teenagers do, including myself when I was one) but you don't. You still have a very limited amount of life and love experience. You don't know what it's like to be with the same person for a very long time. I have been in a relationship with the same person for many years and while I don't cheat on her, I can understand people in my situation who can't fight the urge. Personally, I'm more into an open-relationship type of model but many people are caught in a situation where they've been with the same person for 5 or 10 or even 30 years and they truly, truly love that person but they also want to experience something else sexually speaking. However, they can't do that because monogamy is such a big thing in our society and if their partners are more the jealous or old-fashioned type, they get into the desperate situation where they want to have some fun without somebody else but they also don't want to hurt their love. Result: they resort to cheating.
You might not be able to understand all this at your age but believe me, you will in 10 or 15 years. If your parents are still married, ask them about it. They will agree with me (even if they don't cheat on each other).1
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Most Helpful Girl
I think people have things pushing them to do certain things. For example - maybe they want to eat cake because they have a fatty acid deficency or because their brain is telling them to feed it "happy" pills to soothe their own depression.
Some people have sexual desire which is why they sleep with people they aren't with.
When you don't have those desires - doing the right thing is easy. It's not a matter of self-control - its a matter of desire - whether you want to do the wrong thing or whether you don't have any desire to do the wrong thing.0