Would you rather be loved than feared and why? comment below!
- Love is stronger81% (26)53% (9)71% (35)Vote
- Fear is stronger19% (6)47% (8)29% (14)Vote
People respect those they fear, i dont see people respecting those they love
Most Helpful Girl
I guess this is my opinion:
Fear doesn't have to be the biggest motivator.
A strong enough love can overcome fear. Besides, even with difficults in the middle, if u chose the path of love despite the fear u felt, u will become stronger than ever as a person. Not to mention that a life of love is a much more fulfilling one.
we were put on this earth to love despite our flaws. Love life, people and ourselves. It would be the ultimate betrayal of the self not to follow ur heart out of fear.
This is just one perspective. And despite knowing this in theory, I hope that I am strong enough to put it to practice when it counts!5
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Most Helpful Guy
Very very interesting question. FEAR and LOVE? This is just my opinion on the subject, so here goes...
I personally think Love and Fear are one and the same thing... just two sides of a coin, one cannot exist without the other. Take my wife whom i really love dearly... i love her so much that sometimes when i am not with her i fear that something might happen to her... will she fall (she is pregnant btw), is she ok, is something going to hurt her... so much fear of her getting hurt builds up inside me and maybe it makes the love even stronger. I think both having fear and love can work to your advantage.
Sometimes when you see very young children (1-3 years old) they tend to have very little fear and i ask myself... why is this? I think its because they don't yet have any bad impressions/experiences in their mind and as they get older theses negative experiences manifest in the mind and become fear. Which is stronger? Fear or Love, i think both are equal and for me at least in my life... when i experience love it is always followed by some fear, will i lose her, is she hurt, will i see her again...
I remember i loved to do engineering, it was my passion at university but it was always followed with thoughts of fear... will i be good enough, will i fail my exams, etc.
In the end, i think both are complimentary and work hand in hand. There is a time when feeling fear can motivate one and also times when love can do the same. Both exist for a reason and i have not yet come to comprehend its nature in totality... so i cannot add much more to that.
As a last point you mention that "People respect those they fear, i don't see people respecting those they love" and i cannot argue with you about that because i have seen it work in real life, however... when people fear you... it is almost guaranteed that hate will develop in the minds of those who fear you and be focused towards you and one day that hate will manifest in a physical/emotional nature against you. For me personally i would rather have people lose "forced respect" for me; than to have "hatred" for me.
I know i might have expressed my thoughts incoherently but i thought this was a great question and one that requires lots of thought because there is a lot more under the surface... two very powerful forces of nature.9
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