There is a guy living in my dormitory, whose long time girlfriend is out for some internship and they live together in the same dorm room. He brought a new girl to his room yesterday night. I thought they were just friends but this morning in the common kitchen, this girl was touching him in the places one should not (to a committed guy) and he just moved his hands away when I went into the kitchen (He was a bit shocked!!). His girlfriend definitely doesn't know it. The picture of this girl touching him was floating in my mind the whole day along with the picture of his girlfriend who keeps on cooking and cleaning after him all the time she is here. This guy does not cook most of the time and when he cooks he leaves the mess which his girlfriend cleans when she returns from school. I feel constantly bad about this. I know its not my business but still I feel bad for his "down to earth" girlfriend. It makes me a bit scared and skeptical too!
Most Helpful Guy
These sort of images don't go away so easily. This guy seems to be a complete jerk. If this 'other' girl knows that he is already committed to someone else, then she's no better than him either.
I went through another comment you made, wherein you mentioned that he's a lawyer so you'd rather not mess with him. But this has to be stopped. I mean... isn't there ANYTHING you could do? Perhaps use a VPN service to mask your ip address, and then send her an anonymous text on some social media?
If you put yourself in her shoes for a minute, wouldn't you want to be informed if your long term boyfriend was cheating on you behind your back? Please don't get me wrong. I'm not implying that this would happen to you, but I'm only trying to consider the wider perspective here. I agree that we can't go on a mission to correct ALL the wrongs around us, but I personally feel this is something which CAN be made known to her, without putting yourself at risk.
You know, it is jerks like this who have created the stereotype of 'all men are cheats, and they want only sex' amongst a lot of women. So the actual 'sensible' men, who wouldn't even dream of cheating, usually bear the brunt. This may not seem much, but you letting her know about it in SOME way would really save her from a lot of heartache and misery later on.
Just my sincere opinion. In the end, it is your call because I am only basing my response according to the details included in the question, and am not aware of other factors which may be at play over there. :)1
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Most Helpful Girl
Maybe you could slip her some anonymous note. Put it in her bag when she isn't looking?1