This is for the ones that have falen deeply in love with someone.
Did you ever expect it to be so lovely? I sure did not. I didn't think love could be like in the movies. except that it isn't: it's better :)
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, I know what you mean :-). I have found the love of my life and so I'm very, very happy and head over heels in love :-). In fact, I think we love each other even more now than in the beginning. The first two years are cool because you're so passionate about each other... you have sex twice every day and stuff like that and that's really awesome. But now - and I might sound like your grandparents here - it has become even better because our love has become "deeper". Maybe our fire is not quite as hot anymore as in the beginning but instead we have gained a very deep understanding of each other. My girlfriend has also become my soul mate and in a way, that feels even nicer :-).
However, I should also say that long relationships are (unfortunately) not just about happiness. For the first 1-2 years, you can keep a relationship rolling simply by having a lot of sex and being silly. But there's a certain point where the relationship starts to also mean work. For some people this comes a little earlier, for others in comes a little later. For my girlfriend and me it started after around 4 years (we've been together for 5 years now). At this point, you realize that in order to keep the relationship positive and healthy and all these things, both people have to be willing to work for it and put time and energy in it. Both people have to be willing to be incredibly happy sometimes but also be incredibly frustrated other times - without simply giving up and screaming "I'm gonna break up with you!" In fact, I believe this to be the biggest secret of decade-long relationships. The most important reason why many people in our grandparents' generation have managed to stay together for their whole life is because they feel extremely committed to their partners. Unfortunately, many young people on the contrary have been influenced by capitalist consumer society where you just "use" something and then you throw it away. Many people have forgotten that love is not just butterflies and rainbows but also the ability to say "wow, you make me so fucking angry today... but I still love you like crazy and that is why I want to work things out with you at any price". If you have this emotional capacity and persistence and a partner who is with you in that boat, you have the perfect preconditions to stay together in a very happy, sweet and fun relationship :-).4
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Most Helpful Girl
Love in movies seems great, almost like a fairy-tale. I wasn't expecting love to be like that. I thought 'love' would be nice, but something riddled with insecurity, frequent doubts in whether your partner likes you or not, etc..
I've learned otherwise. Love is better than the fairy-tale depictions in movies. Anyone would have a ball and a half living in castles or with everything handed to you on a silver platter. The real life version is greater, and definitely more rewarding. To know that as horrible of a day or week you can be having, lugging yourself around to work, class, studying, etc., and just half an hour spent with your sweetheart can make the all your troubles melt away temporarily. Restore your hope in humanity, in a sense.
Realize that maybe life isn't so bad, so long as you've got each other. :)1