My birthday is coming up and my parents are throwing me a party with family and friends. I want my boyfriend to be there but he is planning a vacation for the same time as my birthday. The thing is, he can plan his vacation anytime. He can go the day after my birthday or whenever. It's just him going so he doesn't have to check with anyone and he doesn't have anything planned. Tickets haven't been booked yet or anything.
but he's still insisting on going during my birthday. I feel like since his plans are so open and this is important to me, he should be willing to postpone his trip by a day. Am I being unreasonable?
What would you think in my situation?
Most Helpful Guy
Tell him that you will ignore whatever he says about his feelings towards you and you will judge his feelings by his actions. That is being reasonable.2
Most Helpful Girl
How long have you been dating? Maybe he is nervous about meeting your family? I would say I might understand him not wanting to go to the big to do if you aren't that serious but he still should t be leaving town on your birthday. My boyfriend and I had only been dating for a month when his birthday rolled around and I made sure it was special. No one ever makes a big deal out of his birthday so while I didn't make a huge to do I made sure we are at a really nice restaurant got him a nice present and had a really intimate night. That is what anyone who cares about you should do.1
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