If he's 35 and have two kids and still he wants to have a baby with me. If it's too young tell me why please.
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Twenty-one is way too young to be a stepmother. At the age of 21, you are still in your baby years of adulthood. The early 20's is a time for perpetual soul vacations. This is the time where you disregard the framework your parents created for your life and establish your own as an adult in this world. No one ever tells you this. Your early 20's are a very delicate yet powerful time in your life so it's crucial that you take the right steps and choose the paths that are going to be best for your mind, body, soul, and spirit 10 years from then.
Not only that, but I believe that it's best to wait to tackle motherhood past the age of 25. I guarantee that at least 95% of mothers who have children or embrace motherhood before the age of 25 will look back and express how they wish they would have waited or taken their time. Motherhood is not all rainbows and butterflies. Motherhood is sacrifice, stress, compromise, selflessness to the most extremes, skill whether developed or underdeveloped, patience, wisdom, structure, the ability to be a firm disciplinarian and more. In all honesty, you may be dealing with brats (we were all there at one point) who don't even appreciate 1/4 of your effort as a mother until they are teenagers or adults and even then they may still lack appreciation. This is a major deal therefore it's not something that should just be approached without your absolute best mental and spiritual cultivation. If this thirty-five year old man truly loves you, then he will honor and respect your need to efficiently explore what's left of your youth and establish your identity as a woman who is not a mother just yet. I think it's slightly selfish for him to essentially rob you of what's left of your youth because he wants what he wants now. Not cool.4