Professional opinion or I will report and block quick!
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I think the more important, more advantageous thing to focus on is what kind of father this man will make in general. Is he gentle, kind, and patient? Is he quick to anger? Does he have control over his anger? Does he value knowledge and able to fill your child's mind with random facts? Can he provide? What are his views on discipline? Does he have particular unhealthy habits that you would not want your child to pick up? Consider that future with him first then add race as a factor...
Is this man racially illiterate, socially and/or culturally unaware, and/or completely oblivious to the set of issues brown people, especially African/African Americans, experience? Does he or does he not attempt to dismiss and invalidate instances of blatant racism in order to make himself feel comfortable? Is he open to discussing whatever race based stress you experience in life with an understanding desire to know? What is he going to say should your biracial child experience the misfortune of being racially profiled by a police officer? Is he going to automatically side with the cop even though some cops are bullies, have social disorders & mental illness which causes them to act a damn fool and subjugate others? These are legitimate things you must consider.
If these answers are positive then I'd say you've found a gem and you should make a life partner out of him. Parents are always going to be concerned about their children's choices, even when we become adults, but at the end of the day; it's simply not their choice to make. I can understand where your parents are coming from especially if they are African American and from the South because I do think that there are quite a few white people who are inherently racially biased. That's coming from a very mixed person who sometimes looks white or Italian. I have personally observed groups of white people or heard some white person get comfortable with me and make a racist comment or joke and think nothing of it, not even realizing how incredibly offensive, inappropriate, and flat-out racist that was. Instead suggesting that I'm too "politically correct" for not being cool with their lack of empathy and tact. However if the white man you've found doesn't apply to this group of people then your parents will just have to get over their anxiety and worries with time.2