My chest is so flat, my boobs are basically nonexistent and it makes me so insecure. I feel like it looks awkward on my body, and guys don't want to date me. It bugs me when girls talk about it, and I'm the only one without boobs. I know I can't make them grow and there's nothing special about any of my other features, so I don't know what's gonna make me feel better when I had this problem for my whole life.
Most Helpful Guy
I have been close to women or girls my whole life. I always hated arrogance in people. It was rare, but I had a few female friends who would be considered highly attractive in face and body that were level headed and seemed to understand what was important. However, a majority of these females were maybe not considered attractive for one reason or another. When I speak "attractiveness" I am referring to what we are told by today's media. Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder in many cases and I am getting to that. Anyway, with these girls who are not the typical Cosmo cover girls, I have seen one significant difference in them that makes one soooo much more attractive than the other... being comfortable in her own skin. Here is an example; I dated two different girls at two different times. Both had deep stretch marks from child bearing. One tried hard to hide them and was very self conscious sexually. The other wore a 2 piece suit to the public pool and lived by a moto of "Don't like it? Don't look!" and walked with her head held high. I loved both. (obviously) I was attracted to both. However, the one who was self conscious actually drew attention to herself in a very negative way as where the other had a much more comfortable feel to her. It really is all about being comfortable in your own skin. When you focus on what is important about you, the superficial has less significance. I think people who are desperate to look beautiful may possibly feel ugly on the inside in many cases. By the way, I have always loved smaller breasts. I recently found that my ideal girl has a 32A for a girl with an average height of around 5'6". My first true love was found when I was 15. She had small breasts. I don't keep many exgf's in my life but we were more best friends that boyfriend / girlfriend anyway. So, we are still very close today, emotionally speaking. She is 2,600 miles away. Anyway, she had huge breast implants around 10 years ago and I was sick about it. I almost cried when she told me how she used to feel about herself. How could she have felt soo bad when I saw her as perfect? Listen, there are many, many men who like a girl with a sportier build. That won't matter until you learn to like yourself. This is such a HUGE problem today. Just look in the "How do I look? " category. It is chocked full of girls who are desperate for approval. A part of me wants to relieve their pain and make them all feel beautiful but I don't want to contribute to that whole mindset.1
Most Helpful Girl
Lots of guys/girls prefer a female with a small/no chest. Just bc u don't have big boobs doesn't mean u aren't sexy and pretty in ur own way :)5