This year I've been harassed quite a lot and now my self-esteem is really really low. I just feel like shit.
Most Helpful Guy
I think some of the first steps is to realize that other people don't decide your value and that you don't need their approval to be you. Your value comes from you and not other people or external things.
Also realize that if other people try to put you down then that is an indication that there is something wrong with them, not you. How you treat other people is a reflection of yourself.
If you feel that you are fragile, try to understand and forgive instead of trying to become cold and cruel. Understand that many people are lost and broken and understand that you are valuable as you are.
By forgiveness and understanding you become etherial and cannot be emotionally harmed. If you try to become tough and careless you more often grow distant and wander further away from yourself instead.
Realize that who you are is no set in stone. You are, like everybody else, constantly changing. Often so slow that we don't notice. Your personality is not actually who you are but rather who you "think" you are or who you have chosen to become, mostly unconsciously.
Your low self esteem is the result of you believing things about yourself that is not true. Try to find your limiting beliefs and challenge them. See where they come from, who implanted them, and why you have accepted them as truth, when they are not. The reason why this is hard to do is because our personality and limiting beliefs are usually implanted in us subconsciously at a very young age. Look inside yourself with curiosity and you will be amazed about what you will find.
I'm describing an inner journey to find yourself and get rid of the "small" self you now believe you are. You are much more than you think you are.5
Most Helpful Girl
It's hard to feel good about yourself when people are mean, but you have to keep in mind that their bullying speaks more to their poor character than you as a person.
Surround yourself with people that support and encourage you—that is the most important thing—and strive to grow. Become a better person through this experience. It's hard to feel bad about yourself if you are making a difference in the world :) I feed a child in Bolivia, and it has been such a blessing to me.4