This is something I, and many others struggle with.
I find it hard to value myself very much, and don't really know how to change that.
Saw something interesting that may help explain it.
Kanye said one good girl is worth 1000 bitches.
little Wayne said bitches are a dime a dozen.
So according to their math...
$0.10/12=0.0083¢ per bitch
Thanks to the keen intellect of Yeezy and Weezy, we now know that a good girl is about $8.33 apiece. Know your worth people.
And really, even if you are the a good girl.. what can you really buy anymore for $8.33?
Most Helpful Guy
As I just wrote in another post, "love" is a free-market economy. There are values assigned to everything and everyone, and everyone wants to get the most value for the "treasure" they trading.
From a money perspective, Kanye and Wayne may have a high value, but from a moral and cultural perspective, they are as bankrupt as an 80-year-old ugly Tijuana whore. Perhaps it's best not to judge yourself on their warped and distorted scale of value.
It's also worthwhile to understand something about salesmanship. Consider a used car dealer. If you bring your car into him to sell, he's going to list all of the things wrong with your car and why he can only give you $1000 for it, even though you only bought it 6 months ago for $5000. Ultimately, he'll give you $1200, and you'll be half-convinced he did you a favor. Yet, tomorrow, he's going to try to convince interested buyers that this same car is worth $6000, not a penny less, and will be able to tell you all the reasons why this is so.
What is the "truth"? Well, things DO have some intrinsic value (perhaps an objective person might assign the worth of the car as $4500), but that value can also be adjusted based on PERCEIVED value - and it is this perception a salesman tries to manipulate to get you to take less or spend more.
Everyone needs to be honest with themselves about their intrinsic value - and if you really don't know, ask 20 people, and take an average; it won't be far off. Once you know that, then you need to be a salesman, and work on adjusting others perceptions, so that you can maximize your own value and get the most from any "trades" you do. Some of that perception may require physical work - improving your appearance/style, improving your financial situation, moving out into your own place, etc., but some of it is going to require MENTAL work/effort - learning to believe in your value and even to talk UP your own value with confidence. Understand that relationships are a negotiation, and believing in yourself is almost certainly going to help you get a better "deal" on the open market.
For Betwyn specifically, understand that the early loss of your father (the source of most young girls' self esteem) and emotional abuse from your mother has caused you to greatly undervalue yourself - FALSELY. That isn't your fault, but now only you can change it, by opening your mind to the possibility of change.1
Most Helpful Girl
First off you need to stop trolling! I GET IT GURL YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR WORTHLESS! Yes there are a lot of pretty girls with great body or awesome personality but you can't focus on the world. You got focus on you.!! How do you turly value yourself start with look back all the bad things that happen and think how you kept pushing forward... do this everyday remind yourself that you stood up to shit! Remember that you are all that you have.
-watch youtube sarah are vargas she a wonderful women with great advice
-look in the mirror and take picture until you find one your okay with
-Do more things you love or explore new things
-excersie and eat right lol
-Be happy postive because you deserve to feel valuable!!1