my friend (who is commonly reffered to as she) just came out to me as bigender and im completely fine with that but i want to be sensitive and im not sure what pronoun to use around her, obviously im not going to call my friend he as they are out to anyone but me but when im around them do i refer to her as she or just as her first name and try avoid using any gender pronouns unless i get given permission by her directly.
- call her sheVote A
- just use first name to be safe, but may risk sounding weirdVote B
Most Helpful Guy
If you're just with her one on one you wouldn't be using pronouns to refer to her, would you?0
Most Helpful Girl
Well, the best thing to do is always ask. Your friend obviously trusts you and as long as you're not really shifty about it, double checking the pronouns aren't a big deal. If you want to be totally safe, go with they/them/their pronouns but you and your friend seem to be close enough that I'm sure they'd be cool - and probably grateful - for you double checking with them.1