I I just watched this Buzzfeed video where they had guys admit their true feelings of loneliness. Do any of you feel this way? Why?
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Yes, I do.
Guys of a certain age specifically, between around 27/28 to 34/35 seem to fit into a very difficult space in history. It's been a time that we were born and raised as young boys in a world that was very adamantly set on a course to follow and adhere to the traditional way of things which meant very specific roles for men and women going forward.
As we grew up though almost all of these traditional values seemed to change drastically and it's ultimately left us very confused, pretty hurt and largely incapable of dealing adequately with our feelings and emotions, which of course, was severely frowned upon from the traditional perspective.
We still hold very dear to our hearts the traditional value of women and her place in our lives and we very, very much wish to continue with many of these values and to teach them and their importance to our sons going forward. Values like good manners, respect and sincere appreciation for women and their importance in our lives both individually and in society as a collective.
We are now stuck in a position that we are now expected to first disprove all of the negative connotations associated with being a man, before we can even start to hope of proving our genuine worth and value in a world that requires an immediate answer and simply won't wait around for us to figure it all out. With the result we so much more often than not tend towards our most base response, that of anger, which in turn further isolates and alienates us from not only the very women in whose lives we so wish to be a part of but also from the men around us that may be able to see our deficiencies and point us in the right direction to possible at least start to work on the solutions to these problems rather than just feel so hopelessly inadequate.
Hopefully more and more of us will find our way back into the general fray of things and some sort of understanding may start to develop.
Personally I feel that we're ultimately all on the same team here and we need each other vastly more than we will readily admit to anyone let alone each other and both men and women are supremely guilty of, for lack of a better way of putting it, flat out resentment towards each other, that neither side is willing to see the situation for what it is, accept the other sides shortcomings for what they are and show that person that they do in fact have some support available.
It'll take genuinely big strides and honestly mature attitudes from all of us to fix2