I am 29 and earning over $12,000 a month including bonuses but i feel poor. Would you date a woman like me?
Most Helpful Guy
You're making a good amount of money, but clearly you've never taken the time to decide for yourself what success is and what it should look like. And clearly you also have a dysfunctional relationship with money ("I feel poor").
So despite your good results... No, you are NOT doing well with your career.
Fortunately for you, the vast majority of guys don't give a fuck about a woman's career. When it comes to dating, that sort of status Bullshit is largely a female preoccupation. That said, men are beginning to care a bit more about it.
But why I personally wouldn't date you is for this reason: you don't know what you want out of life. At your age, that's deadly.
If we were to settle down, you'd get restless and things would unwind (sticking me with court fees...). Kids would be disrupted (either having them at all or having them and making them deal with divorced parents). Etc.
So because I don't believe I could plan a life around you -- and frankly, because younger women are available to me (we're the same age) -- dating you would be more of a gamble than I want to deal with.2
Most Helpful Girl
So you make $90 $100K after Taxes, and you're feeling poor? What exactly is your income to debt load? Sounds pretty high if you are feeling the pain in the wallet.
What would you be able to save if you paid off your debt? My parents have been part of the zero debt movement for years, they buy everything on a cash and carry basis, houses, cars, appliances, furniture... My husband and I are trying to get our finances aligned to do the same thing. There's a whole lot more money to go around when you're not paying financing!
A good guy isn't going to care less about your income level, if you're the right girl for him. If I were still dating I would only invest myself in quality men of proven character, otherwise you're looking at gold diggers.0