So, in my little circle of friends, we have this one friend -- a dude -- who we'll call him William. William projects that he's happy 24/7, that everything is great in the world, etc. Even when things don't go his way, he covers himself with this cloak of "I still feel great!" Basically, he's the kind of dude who, if you pissed on his head, he'd be the one to tell *you* that it's raining.
As an aside: he's also exuded some doormat tendencies in the past, especially in regards to women. As a friend of his, I often find myself infuriated by it, to the point where I can't hang out with him.
Anyway, rant over. My question is this: do you know anyone like this (someone who acts/is happy 24/7)? And do those people seem less genuine to you, or do you see the behavior as them trying to create a new, happier, genuine (to them), reality?
I rarely post personal questions like these, but I'm kind of at a loss here. We've been friends for almost 20 years, and sometimes I feel like I don't *really* know the guy. And to top it off, I've tried gently to coax some sort of realness out of him, and I've given constructive criticism in the past vis-a-vis his doormatness, but it's all in one ear, out the other.
Most Helpful Girl
i couldn't be friends with someone like that... he doesn't seem real at all. i wonder if he's really that happy though. might all just be a huge cover and really, he's miserable as hell inside but just thinks if he pretends he isn't, he won't be. i too wouldn't feel like i really knew the guy if he always came off as cheerful, never seemed to be worried about anything. that kind of outlook makes no sense to me. i don't really know people like that, i avoid them lol.1
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Most Helpful Guy
Well... I'm just like William! I tend to hide my problems, unless I know the other person very well. Only then I open up. And it's usually these people who are actually going through a lot more than others.
Here is a little 'slogan' I have made about myself:-
"Look at my face, and you'll see a smile that'll brighten up your day.
But look into my eyes, and you'll see deep pain that never goes away".2
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