Sexual repression is a state in which a person is prevented from expressing his or her sexuality. Sexual repression is often associated with feelings of guilt or shame being associated with sexual impulses.
((My Life story!)) I grew about around a typical religious environment. Church activity and everyday on Sunday I would vist and pray! Now, my mom never talked about sex but my mom would and still is judgmental of girls who looked or acted slutty! As a kid I assume that was normal for a proper young lady to not have sexual thoughts in their heads. My whole family has always made me feel that women shouldn't behave sexual and kinda of made me feel guilty for a couple of years bc I did think about sex! Later in my young life, I fully represses my feeling because I didn't want be seen dirty or slutly or anything like that. Of course I know sex is normal and blah blah but at this time in my life I was hating myself for having sexual desire!
I personally, I realized that it wasn't normal and I was always judging myself for simply thinking of sex. I decide to cut the crap and express myself. What I learn is that its a natural feeling like crying and no-one should ever repress any kind of feeling! Tell me how you dealt with it or how you deal with this. Whats your attitude toward all this?
Most Helpful Guy
I grew up in a religious environment as well. It really comes down to the person, depends on if they wish to be independent... or not. I bestowed my V-card apon someone at 16 so it was without a doubt me vs. me.
Thats the mistake people make, they think its everyone else stopping them, however it is simply always going to be me vs me. Others can influence that if you allow them too but it is simple to remain distant from others thoughts so they don't impede your own. Again its always going to be you vs you. No one is stopping you from eating right, exercising, getting the right education, it is always going to be you-v-you. That's what i had to come to grips with, once you understand you are the main resistance the constant struggle you in particular have been facing WILL subside.1
Most Helpful Girl
it's never bothered me much to be honest. realistically, u can't shut out sexual thoughts from the mind if you try, all you can do is hold them off by doing or thinking something else till they come back.
i've never found it difficult to not have sex, despite opportunities in my life to do so. i think I'm okay with repressing it because i know why I'm doing it, and for me that outweighs actually doing it. i release sexual energy mainly through physical activity or writing out my thoughts into romance. overall, i have self control, and it's my choice. i kinda like that people don't see the sexual side of me too [in real life]. it makes me feel mysterious :P4