I find it cowardly. Why not just ask the person themselves?
Most Helpful Guy
It's called intelligence gathering and no I don't do it.0
Most Helpful Girl
i totally agree. this is how i got with my second guy actually. people kept telling me "omg him? why him?" he's this and that and blah blah blah"
i told em all "look, if I'm making a mistake, imma make it myself, but I'm not gonna let your opinion make my decision for me"
i went for it. naturally they were wrong, and I'm glad i did it. i ended up leaving him for reasons i had discovered myself. sorry for the story but i feel like no one should let others decide who someone really is, because the only person who knows is them.0