My four year old sons behaviour is so bad. He tells me to Fxxk off calls me a cxxt everyday , hits me for coughing I'm not allowed to cough and demands sweets and if he don't get them all hell is let loose. He does not listen to a word I say and hits me. What good ways is there to stop this behaviour as it is starting to get out of hand. I am a good mum. But I find this is getting out of hand now. Has anyone else had this problem?
Most Helpful Guy
"if he doesn´t get them all hell is loose" never give him sweets when he acts that way. this is the worst thing you could ever do.
find out what he likes and don´t give it to him if he behaves bad.
you have to be very strickt know, cause there´s only one reason for such behavior: you fucked up big time, are not consistent and desparately need to introduce a logical reaction to what he does with raising penalty level that adapts to what he has done but also a rewar system for when he´s been a good boy.
don´t give in. giving in one time and giving him sweets just because his tantrum gets on your nerve, will fuck up like 1000 times you´ve been strict and consistent.
don´t let him have his way.
also: him hitting you has to get a REALLY harsh penalty. don´t let him do this shit with you.
i´m not saying you´re a bad parent just know that children are opportunistic. as soon as they learn how to exploit you, the will exploit the shit out of you. you can be less strict, when he starts behaving in an acceptable way but now is the time to be very strict. and remember: rewarding good behavior is really important too.0
Most Helpful Girl
Where has your child heard these words? One, very inappropriate. Two, stop saying it and allowing it around your child. At four years old, your child is so much smarter than you give him credit. He sees and hears more than he lets on.
Change your lifestyle and tell him you made some mistakes, but you will make better choices. Let him know what he is doing wrong and tell him why. When he has outbursts again, remind him of the talk y'all had and tell him you are serious about the changes.
If you don't have the guts to spank your child, you better find some way to correct this behavior or he is going to beat you as he gets older. Time out does not work all the time.
To be honest, I give kudos to those parent who take off their flip flop and spank their back talking child.0