Which one do you follow? What If you go to get it and it doesn't happen how you want it to? then it's not meant to be. If it's meant to be it will happen anyway? But surely you'd have to do something it won't just come to you.(crush wise)
Most Helpful Guy
You have to go get it if you want to maximize your odds. Sitting back and hoping some magical coincidence will just happen out of the blue is fairy tale lottery kind of stuff. You can rely on totally remote luck or you can significantly improve your odds by putting yourself out there.1
Most Helpful Girl
well... I think people started saying 'if it's mean to be, it will be' to sort of sugarcoat things when situations didn't go there way. To rid themselves or their actions of having played a part in that, instead saying it happened because of fate.
Nothing will ever happen if you rely on fate, ie. expecting things to happen as you wish them to while you do nothing towards that end-goal. The only way to get things done is to put in some work and actual effort.1