Recently found out I am boring. I was on a date and a guy asked me "So what do you do besides me?"
I had nothing to say. I have no interests or hobbies. Never got into art, anime, comic books, sports, music, or anything. I have no special interests or skills. He seems to be very driven, always looking for something challenging. I, on the other hand, and more like a sloth. I don't have ambition to do anything. I work and go to school but I can't seem to find an interest in anything. All I do is surf the internet and I'm not even succesfull at that, I have no social media presence and frankly I don't care about that either.
We stopped seeing each other because he got bored and I feel shitty.
Can anyone else relate to this lack of motivation? How did you break from the cycle?
Most Helpful Guy
Lady, you are exactly like me. I have no hoobies other than playing games and reading SciFi books. I surf the web but I have no internet present and my Facebook page consisting of my name and a picture of a teddy bear.
Your hobbies isn't something you do, it should be something you are interested in. I had no hobbies before other than playing games. However, I majored in economics so I have a fair bit of understanding with economics. This sort of excited me and let me read economic papers.
Lately, I also spend time reading fantasy and SciFi stories. I am not an out going person so if you ask me for sports or outdoor activities, I won't be there unless I have to.1
Most Helpful Girl
Your not boring - you are either perceived as easy by him or you have difficulty expressing what your life is about. You don't have to go mountain climbing or boating every weekend to be considered an interesting person. If school and work takes up all your time then talk about your job and your school - that is what I do with my friends - I talk about how I feel about my professors, how I feel about the good students (always positive when I talk about other people), how I feel about people in my family, how I feel about the food and coffees I am consuming, how I feel about the transportation to get to school, how I feel about the tests we are taking, how I feel about the assignments we are writing, how interesting I find the course material, what my hopes are about the academic term, what my fears are, how I struggle with dealing with people in my life, and what I think my friends can do to improve their outlook or level of happiness. If you are alive - you experience things - talk about those experiences - and you will have something to talk about. If somebody expects you to go clubbing or golfing every week and can't accept you as an ordinary person - then they are not good relationship material to begin with.0