Most Helpful Guy
Being in a long term relationship that was really good, with a person I really loved and cared for, and realizing that I was changing / "Growing Up" and starting to head in a different direction than my partner. Having to make that decision that even though we were in love and had nothing but respect and admiration for each other, that we were wanting different things in life for our future and that we couldn't be together and both be happy.
I can remember for a few months the long drives between work / my house / her house where those thoughts about what to do were going through my head, and then the day where I finally knew we had to end it, I think that was the hardest though I've gone through.
Ended up working out good for both of us though (I think?), though I still wonder from time to time...
And we are in VERY different places in life now, may years later, so I don't think it would have been able to work.
Was rough going through at the time, though we're both happy now.3
Most Helpful Girl
For me it was coming to terms with the fact that my 12 year marriage was over. My ex had spiraled down a slippery slope of prescription drug addiction and was completely unreliable in any aspect. He destroyed my trust and any shred of respect I had for him and refused to even acknowledge there was an issue. We spent four years as roommates before I finally moved out. After I moved out he still couldn't be bothered to even try to meet up and discuss things, so I just stayed gone. Things are fine now and we are best friends, but it's been two years now; guess it's really over.
When I left I took nothing with me but my own clothes. He still has furniture I brought into the marriage as well as everything I had bought while in it. I didn't want the house, I am waiving all financial dependency and have no desire for child support or alimony or anything from him. We share a drama free custody 50/50 of the kid. I am in a wonderful relationship now with a guy for just over a year.
Proof that once the rain clears, the sun will shine again.1