This might be a long post, but whatever, I just need a space to rant a little for now.
So here's this.. I'm 18 this year (well not yet 18, will be next week), and recently (last month, like three weeks ago) just moved over to Australia to live with my dad.. [my parents were divorced fyi, and my dad never came back to visit.. up until I was diagnosed with leukemia…], I still keep in contact with my mum whose back in the country.
Now, I've been to Aussie for three times (incl this time), one year once starting from 2014, and my dad has this Korean lady whom he said is a friend. I've never bothered much, tho sometimes her actions seems to be that of more than a friend's. She's been nice to me the first two times I've visited. *fast forward to 2016, now* I'm living in her house (wth?). First two weeks or so, it was good. Everything was good. Then, on Sunday night I had to do my homework (also, it was the eve of the Chinese New Year, I've already felt sad for not being able to go back and now there's this shit coming up), so after dinner, when she asked me to cleaned the fridge, I was kinda frustrated (my bad, I know).. I took the clothe to wipe then the tissue paper to wipe again. NOW HERE'S THE THING! She suddenly got mad and explode and chase me into the room. (fuck it -.- she acts like my mum when in fact she isn't!) My dad did nothing! NOTHING!! So literally, she's been trying to explain to me stuffs and shit and making me sound like I made everyone's life miserable, till the extend I even feel like ending my life. She said that I'm an adult now yet she says that I have to obey her rules blabla, that I should respect my dad, call him daddy etc. I can't call him daddy, how do you expect me to call him that when it's been 17 years that I've never did that?
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My parents divorced when I was very young (6 years old) and it was tough and I had to get used to step-family.
But my father's side wasn't so bad. I didn't get along with them always, but there's a childhood kind of difficulty there of wanting to repress people who aren't actually your real mother or father.
My mother's side was a disaster. She ended up re-marrying a guy who ended up leaving her and stealing her car on the way as well as my most-prized baseball card, a $2,000 Mickey Mantle autographed rookie card that I ended up getting for free when I was a kid.
She dated the most awful guys imaginable, and I had to try to put up with it.
Mostly it's worth noting that your parents are just human beings. They're not immortal, they're not perfect, it's hard to kind of look at them as ordinary people when they brought you up and raised you, but they won't always choose the best.
As for Korean women, they tend to be very odd with the way they look at relationships to Western eyes, can be the boss of the household, etc.
That said, since you're stuck with her until you can become independent and live on your own, I'd just suggest trying to do your best and build a firm resolve, be as independent as you can be in that situation but also try to be as easy to get along with as possible. It'll just make your life so much easier if you aren't making enemies with the people you're living with, as hard as it can be.0
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