Thanks for reading my question. Here's the thing: I've been feeling very insecure lately. I keep comparing myself to other women and feeling jealous because maybe my boyfriend will find them more attractive than me. Lucky for me, my boyfriend gets me and understands this, he keeps reassuring me that I'm the one he wants, that I'm pretty and he's proud of me and he loves me and yes, there are other women, other beautiful women out there but I'm the one he wants. This makes me feel good for a while... but then I start to think back about a text he sent his friend (he texted his best friend "I saw X again today... mmmmmmmh xD she has a bit more belly now though"; this about a girl they both know for years and saw a lot in the gym, but the thought of him thinking and saying "mmmmm" about another girl still makes me feel insecure).
So long story short: how do I stop comparing myself to other women and feel so jealous?
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I can't tell you how to make yourself feel better, but I can tell you that men rarely compare women. We either like how they look or we don't. Sure that girl might look good but the fact that is he's with you. Not her. You already won. And jealousy is really pointless. You two are together because you want to be. He could've left you for her but he didn't. All you can do is show him how awesome you can be and show him you love him. That's pretty much all one can do and hope for the best. If he leaves, you'll be losing an idiot and he'll be losing someone who loved him. Therefore - his loss, not yours.1
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