I feel ashamed that i can't cope myself. will people look down on me? :(
has anyone here had depression or panic attacks before?
Please could i get advice and input from -
thank you in advance
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I have had depression, very very serious depression. I still deal with both depression and panic attacks, though they are way more under control than they were in my mid-20s. 25 was my low point, in terms of mental health. As part of the healing and recovery process I totally rebuilt myself though, which is actually one of the reasons I am active on this site - to try and help others who may feel like they need a hand up, they way I did... a bit of ho to climb out of a deep pit that feels overwhelming and insurmountable.
What you need to understand is that the brain is an incredibly complex biochemical computer, and it has issues ALL the time. Hardly anyone's is actually working perfectly at any given time, they just all tend to have slightly different issues. Too much of this causes one thing, too much of that causes another, too little of this causes yet another. Some issues are less disruptive than others, but that's mostly just the luck of the draw.
If the engine of your car is making a weird clanging sound, you take it to a mechanic. If your brain is out of chemical balance, you talk to a therapist. There isn't anything more shameful about it than taking your car to a mechanic. It's what you do to fix the problem. And the problem is not your fault, it just happens, so there is no point feeling any sense of blame for it. You can't control some of the issues that develop with your brain, so you can't be responsible for them developing. What you are responsible for is taking steps to fix the problem once you identify it. You should feel bad if you know you have issues and dot take any steps to try and address them. Going to therapy, asking for help, trying to understand the problem... those are all supportive steps, steps to address the issue. That's the correct, appropriate thing to do.
Do not feel badly for taking your car into the shop.2