Do you still believe in the fairytale idea of romance and love?

Do you believe that the idea of romance is still alive? That falling so madly and deeply in love is still possible?
Or do you believe that there's no way for people to still fall in love like they used to? Is this due to gender equality? People not caring as much?

Tell me why you believe, what you do.

  • Yes, I still believe in the idea of being able to fall so deeply in love
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  • No, I don't believe it's possible anymore
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  • I believe that it is possible to be madly in love. I think that everyone deserves that chance, and it is most definitely possible, even in this generation. Its what true love is, and how it should be.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • There is no "fairy tale" love. Love is a fairy tale for a people that are becoming emotionally and sexually degenerated. A people that are losing their standards and ideals.

    Love is biologically very real and possible.

    The idea of love though was always a noble and idealistic concept. Only a people that have a good conception of being healthy, living emotionally healthy, being ideal can understand it, only emotionally near ideal people can have it.

    Even biologically, the easiest thing for us to have is a blind pure sexual desire. Romance is much harder, emotional attachment is much harder.

    It is so obvious why a large group of people don't even get to understand it, a larger group of people don't get to have it.

    Usually the group of people that are so emotionally degenerated that they don't understand it ruin the concept for the people who understand it but can't have it.

    There will always be a hierarchy. A small group will have it, others just read about it and have short term obsessive feelings of love that end to no real connection, another group walk around and ruin it.

    Love is a triangle. A triangle of sexual desire, romance, and deep emotional connection. If you want to permanently have it, have the three all together. Very simple.

    And it is dependent to our brain chemicals. Fine tune your body and brain for permanent love. Don't expect things to magically happen to you. Actively do something about what you want if you really want it.

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What Guys Said 29

  • Of course it can happen. But having both of you do so is about timing. As in, both parties have to be at the right time in their lives and be in the right frame of mind for this to happen.

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  • Absolutely not!

    A lot of fairytales were written a long time ago back when it was easier to fall in love. Times have changed.

    I'm not saying all women are evil, but it's really difficult to get a girl to go out on a date unless you look like Spartacus these days. Some of us work six days out the week and don't have time for dates. Some of us like ourselves the way we are and don't want to change just to impress the women. People are such fools these days to believe in the idea that fairytale romance exists.

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  • Why I believe:
    In summer of 1990, I met this one beautiful young lady, but, because of her beauty and the sausagefest environment at our school, I assumed she was a bitch (because she could be) and was fucking some hockey player; at minimum, having a boyfriend.
    On Friday 10 Aug 1990, I really met her - one on one - all alone in our school's student union. I discovered she was very smart and amazing and we had a lot in common. I was 27, but, after that, I was peaked about a girl that I had not since I was a boy. 10 days later, on Monday the 20th, I realized I was in love with this girl. On Wednesday the 22nd, we became a couple. I would later learn she was a virgin and wanted to wait until marriage. It didn't matter to me because, within 2 months, I knew I was so in love with this girl that I wanted to marry her... I just needed to wait until we graduated school (I was 27 and she was 22). She dumped me on 12 Jan 1992 - her mother's 50th birthday. It's been 24 years since, and I've never recovered from that broken heart and I never will... and she still looks fabulous about to turn 48 this week.

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  • people didn't used to fall madly in love like they did in fairytales. they're fairytales for a reasons... there were fucking dragons and witches and shit. those existed too, right? when people have "love at 1st site", it's infatuation. you can't love people you don't know. also, those fairlytales aren't exactly why i'd call romantic. you should read what actually happened to rappunzel, aurora, snow white, ariel, etc. it's fucked up as shit

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  • Yes, I do believe in the kind of love where people fall to one another deeply and strongly and that only death can separate them. Yes, I do believe in that kind of love.

    However for me " LOVE" has a different definition and even though I believe in LOVE but I never want to be in love.

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  • Disney Engineering? Hell no

    Everything Disney taught me to feel made me question if I really loved my girlfriend because I didn't feel most of those things.

    No rational and smart man would do half the things those guys do just to get the girl. I love my girlfriend and her sisters to death and I didn't lose my rationality in doing it

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  • (for the purpose of my response, "you" refers to anyone who doesn't believe in love)

    I don't know who hurt you or in what way, but I know love is real. I love and have loved and feel loved. W/e life experiences a person may have gone through to draw the conclusion that love doesn't exist, that's a you problem... Dont try to invalidate my feelings or the feelings of my partner b/c you've had a rough go of things.

    I'm sorry you've had a poor relationship with love, but it is definitely a thing. lol.

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  • It's a question of dedication. I think gender equality should actually help, because you can value the person who they are, and not just as a romantic interest of the other sex. You cannot get to know someone if you see them only that way, and not as a person.

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  • It's not really about finding love. It's about finding a person who shares your views and ideas about what love and romance are supposed to be.

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  • Yes of course I believe in it even if it's a very little but it exists of it didn't exists this world would vanish

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  • Infatuation is as strong as it ever was. What is waning is honoring and investing in commitment, and that's because of a society raised to expect instant gratification, and encouraged to indulge the special snowflake syndrome.

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  • It's possible, but most of the girls it's possible with are hanging out on the couch or on the computer. You don't see them out very often...

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  • this question reminds me of ''Hey Brother'' from Avicii xD
    ♬Hey brother
    Do you still believe in one another?
    Hey sister
    Do you still believe in love, I wonder?♬

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  • I have trouble believing that love exists, though I'm a romantic myself... maybe that's why.

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  • Of course I believe in it.

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  • Love is such a hindrance to expanding yourself as a person. I hate romance and love even as a child. I'd never want to marry. I have love like love for a friend and family. But I won't want some girl in my mind 24/7 and bring selfless to her. It sounds selfish but I just can't do it.

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  • I think holding onto these fantasies will only make someone think something is wrong with their relaturnship and be unhappy and end things.

    All feelings fade or at least change into something else... how u are without these feelings dictate how things will be later

    This is why dating someone with similar ideologies and values is extremely important.

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  • I' lost my naiveté

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  • Yes because I'm heading down that "deeply in love" path.

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  • Lol when you've actually had it happen to you it's not so hard to believe.

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  • Yes I sadly still do and I refuse to have it any other way.

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  • I think it's out there for certain people. I know I was in love once, and yeah I'm not ashamed to admit it.

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  • I always will.

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  • I'd like to.

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  • Fairytale idea of romance doesn't exist. Even if it did, I wouldn't be in one of them

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  • No. The ember of hope finally faded.

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  • Yes I still do

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  • Falling in love is easy. Staying in love is the hard part.

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  • Not since I was 11 years old.

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What Girls Said 20

  • i do. i have no reason to give up on it like other people have.
    only people who are intimidated by love will give up.

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  • I do. I've come across elderly couples who have been together for 60+ years. They are my relationship goals, not some god damn tumblr post about love some teen posted. And it would be super nice if I were able to have my first time with the man I'm going to be with for 60+ years weather we're married or not. I would like to get married though...

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  • People are still fully capable of falling madly and deeply in love. Just as much as they ever were.

    Is it possible to fall so deeply in love that you stop showing up at work, ignore any friends/family, etc.. because you must spend every second with your significant other?
    Possible in theory. But that would be quite stupid, in my opinion.

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  • When it's happened to you... it's really hard not to believe in it lol

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  • No maybe in another century those tales would hold true, (to upperclass people of course). I'm just imagining that the level of respect would be different then.

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  • fuck no fam

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  • I used to believe wholeheartedly in that stuff. Now, not so much. A small part of me tries to hold onto it, but my heart grows colder daily.

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  • It's definitely possible to fall deeply in love with someone but you would be a fool to think it's a fairly tale. Relationships are difficult, you're two different people trying to make something work. People also change and want different things throughout their entire lives and sometimes it may just not work out in the end. It's a lot of compromising and accepting. It's not like you just fall in love and everything falls into place after that.

    Being in love is a lot of fun though and the best feeling in the world if you can make it work.

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  • I honestly have no idea on this whatsoever...
    Since I ve never been in love, not the slightest so I don t know how far I ll fall if I ever do.

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  • Yes I do !

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  • Heya,
    I don't believe in the fairy-tale idea of romance never did and never will. Seriously if i lose my damn shoe at midnight.. i am drunk.
    take care

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  • I'm deeply in love and we're very romantic.
    I don't think fairy tales are very realistic though.
    You've got to find that person you click with. I don't think love is completely blind though.

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  • In this shitty parasitic culture, it's an astounding no...

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  • yes i believe in love ♡

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  • Still? I never fucking did in the first place

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  • Disney movies got me hooked on that idea

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  • I absolutely believe in this, it'll take time and patience, but it'll happen :-)

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  • i'll always believe in love but not romance

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  • when you say... like they used to, it kind of implies that there was this magical time period where every person just fell crazy mad deep in love with one another and everyone was on a white horse and sending tons of flowers. That's a romanticized version of looking at the past. People have fallen in love with one another the same way they always have. You like them, they like you, it leads to more, then hopefully ever lasting love. There will always be people who go over the top, do big gestures like flying across the country to surprise someone they love, but that idea of someone being romantic could be just as equal as a partner simply bringing his or her partner a surprise cup of coffee in the morning.

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  • I do believe. But sadly, it has to do with timing. Just imagine that you meet someone you've been waiting to meet your whole life only to realize that he or she isn't available.
    And to make matters worse, he/ she feels the same way about you. That experience taught me that one should never settle for anyone less than whom you dream to be with. Waiting for the right person is hard but in the end it will be worth it.

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