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Most of mine are emotional - I had crap periods with mental health issues from the late 1980s, I suppose a couple of patches stand out but I was in a disastrous relationship in the late 2000s early 2010s, I was in bits physically, emotionally and financially. I don't know for sure if the relationship exacerbated my mental health issue but basically I was in bits. During that time my father was diagnosed with dementia by 2011/2012 it had become clear he needed 24/7 care. I took a career break to become his primary carer but also for a selfish reason to get my life back on track. If any reader interested in the full story this is it www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a25112-a-sidelong-look-at-mental-health-my-experiences-perceptions
Anyway where was I, my dad was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer in February 2014 and he died in July 2014. I think the whole process was a series of painful incidents first of all the dementia diagnosed which is essentially a slow terminal disease, when the dementia got bad the finality kinda kicked in then the cancer diagnosis and he had a few months left to live.
Then a month out he got very weak and the health care team said it has started. Finally when he was bed bound and they said about a week, then he slipped in a coma and by that stage you knew it was over, he died two days later. One thing I will never forget is I was talking to friends on the Wednesday and they asked any indication when and I came straight out saying he will die next Monday and he did. Got a bit sidetracked there the point I was trying to make was I talked to my sister after we are told he had about a week left and I said "It feels like we have been told he is going to die about 5 times already".
All of that was really rough but what I think was the cruellest was watching the dementia take him away, to be honest he was just a shell the last two years of his life, my father disappeared sometime in 2011/12. It used to kill me to think did he realised what had happened, what was he feeling now because he couldn't express what he was going on in his head.2