I'm 21... My longest and only relationship was 4 months a year ago with someone 9 years older than me... He became increasingly angry and acted out, jealous, and ridiculed all I did. I broke things off and didn't look back until I learned he cheated on me throughout the time we were together.
but I was over it. Then I had a sexual partner for 3 months.. I grew attached and he didn't. He was only interested in one nighters but enjoyed stringing me along I guess. He really broke my heart... I lost myself trying to make him love me, need me, want me in how I wanted him. He lied to me and hurt me more than anyone has, I won't go into it.
A couple weeks ago I got over him. I literally woke up one morning and had no feelings left for him and realized he no longer had anything to offer me.
Now, I have 20-25 guys asking me out or talking to me. Because I am, er, good looking if I must admit, I get attention from the males. But I don't trust guys at all. I don't wish to be sexually used again. But not only that.. When I talk to guys I don't find excitement or novelty in any of them. I've gone on a few dates, had a small thing with a rebound guy... He tells me he has fallen for me... and I am emotionless. Even when I see guys I would normally crush on and grow fuzzy about, I feel nothing. All I feel is love for my family and self. I used to daydream about meeting the perfect match for me, building something with someone else, etc... Now I don't believe in any of it and I think it's all garbage. It makes me sad because I want to believe or get excited from guys again, but I'm just not.
Is this a problem?
but I was over it. Then I had a sexual partner for 3 months.. I grew attached and he didn't. He was only interested in one nighters but enjoyed stringing me along I guess. He really broke my heart... I lost myself trying to make him love me, need me, want me in how I wanted him. He lied to me and hurt me more than anyone has, I won't go into it.
A couple weeks ago I got over him. I literally woke up one morning and had no feelings left for him and realized he no longer had anything to offer me.
Now, I have 20-25 guys asking me out or talking to me. Because I am, er, good looking if I must admit, I get attention from the males. But I don't trust guys at all. I don't wish to be sexually used again. But not only that.. When I talk to guys I don't find excitement or novelty in any of them. I've gone on a few dates, had a small thing with a rebound guy... He tells me he has fallen for me... and I am emotionless. Even when I see guys I would normally crush on and grow fuzzy about, I feel nothing. All I feel is love for my family and self. I used to daydream about meeting the perfect match for me, building something with someone else, etc... Now I don't believe in any of it and I think it's all garbage. It makes me sad because I want to believe or get excited from guys again, but I'm just not.
Is this a problem?
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