Usually I'm not into holding grudges unless the person really hurt me badly and play with my emotions or seriously deceive me.
However, whenever I hear about forgiving and not holding grudges it mostly likely involves religious connotations and how the lord forgives.
What if someone was an agnostic or atheist like me, then what would be the reason for forgiving? For me, I think that at some point you don't want to keep living with such anger inside you and you just want to let it out by not thinking negative about that wrongdoer anymore.
Most Helpful Guy
Like you said, forgiving someone is a way of psychologically cleansing yourself (the ancient Greeks would call this catharsis). Though it might have some religious connotations, it's not actually something any religion has invented or has a monopole on. Forgiveness is an inherently human action and it has likely developed as a means to strengthen social bonds and society as a whole. That is why it is practiced everywhere around the world, regardless of ethnicity, culture and language. The people who wrote the new testament simply understood the importance of forgiveness and thus included it in their texts and in the legend of Jesus Christ. In other words: the bible merely tries to morally enforce an action that has already long before the bible was written. It is one of those rather few passages where the bible shows itself as a good-natured, positive and ethically good text.1
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I am agnostic myself and I work to forgive because the people that hurt me do not deserve to have any space in my heart reserved for them. My heart is for those I love and cherish. That space in your heart needs to be filled with love and empathy not hatred, poison, anger, and resentment. You are exactly right. Those people aren't worth the time of day let alone the kindness in your spirit. Don't let your hatred for them grow into a festering cancer because all you're doing is letting them continue to hurt you by hurting yourself. They aren't worth that and you deserve better than that.1