Say you see your ex at a party or gathering. How do you act?
At a party, there's some pressure to interact with everyone, since we're in the same space for some period of time. I just try to be as diplomatic as possible and initiate some degree of conversation - I talk about really casual, surface-level topics. If she tries to take little jabs at me to try and piss me off I chuckle or smile politely, and let it slide. I just end it with, "it was good talking to you again, see you around." The last thing I want to do is start drama.
But if I saw her in the street I would either pretend I don't see her or at most just nod politely and go on.
Most Helpful Girl
Depends on the ex. My most recent one, I would just smile and chat with him. My other one, He ALWAYS spots me before I spot him. I just feel him burning a hole in the back of my head, which causes me to look up and turn around. I just roll my eyes at him.0
Most Helpful Guy
Only one of my exes lives in the same country as me, so it's very unlikely I'll ever see the other ones again.
As for my ex-girlfriend who also comes from my country: she was my girlfriend back when we were teenagers. We had a serious, long-term relationship and I loved her very much and she broke my heart but this was 12 years ago. I'm not angry at her anymore or disappointed or anything like that. We both went our ways. I've been with my current girlfriend for 6 years, she has been with her current boyfriend (the one right after me) for almost 9 years. We will probably both end up marrying our new, respective partners. She made her educations and has a job now, I am still studying but will have my job eventually. She moved to a different city, I stayed in my hometown. She mostly remained in the country, I lived abroad several times. We both have our lives and we don't hold any grudges. In fact, it's been such a long time I don't even remember what she looked like back then or how it was to be her boyfriend. When she invites me to a party, we're just like any other buddies/acquaintances. I'll talk to her just like I talk to other people at that party. I also don't feel awkward or angry around her boyfriend. He's a nice guy and he fits wayyyy better to her than I ever did. Plus, she's changed a lot in the past years and I wouldn't want to date her anymore even if I had the chance. We just weren't very compatible from the get-go and I don't judge or blame her for that. It just wasn't meant to be. That doesn't mean we can't be friends.0