Like in terms of finding love, having a nice, car, job, house, etc on life. If you are a "nice guy" what do you do to change things around in your life and get the life you want?
Most Helpful Girl
You honestly think a car salesman is gonna lose a sale because you're "nice"? Lol0
Most Helpful Guy
The term nice has different flavors that delineate the different worlds...
"sick" nice - wounded and needy boy. They please people and agree with them, so as to avoid conflict. They are really an introverted wounded boy that has some childhood woods that haven't healed. Probably trampled upon by others and put down, they were sensitive people made weaker because they weren't mature enough to see the truth at the time. They are wishy washy, people pleasers and get run over and trampled on easily in discussions and easily manipulated. Girls can't stand these guys because they are emotionally wounded and unsure of themselves. Some girls are drawn to wounded men or their perception of a good guy, but will be disappointed when they find there isn't a man there and it will reveal their own issues.
Nice "good guy" - a man that has his boundaries and he knows himself and is secure in himself. He is confident in himself and his opinions... doesn't mean he's an ass or a biggot. He can listen, think, and change his mind. But he isn't a push over and isn't run over by other people and their emotional games. He will do things that are considerate and nice for girls like open doors, complement them and they are genuine... if he doesn't get praise or rewards, he doesn't care, he's glad to give the "extra" love he has to give. He doesn't apologize for taking action. He may apologize if he hurts someone through, but doesn't apologize for his opinion or view on something. This guy is good enough he doesn't have to be a "bad boy" to get girls. He's a good guy that knows how to be fun, playful with them, engaging in conversation. He gives and he takes, leads, discerns bull crap and takes action. He can be "nice" (respectful) but inform people of how bad and wrong they are without being mean because he's a mature adult with class and values.
The second one takes work... to work on your self, your confidence, really understand your values and who you are. Build a strong root in God [careful with this it can go bad directions... so make sure you are being you not what someone tells you to be.]
Basically the second guy is a good mature Man. The first one is an immature Boy. They could be any age.