I was adopted at age 2 my mom told me all along my growth! I also had friends that were adopted among my young age. But what do you think about there stories? Coz for some people when I tell them I'm adopted they tell me forget about your past and move to the future but inside me I can't I need to know why was I rejected or whatever my story is.
what do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
Realize that you weren't "rejected." That implies that there were shortcomings in you at birth which is ridiculous.
What your mom rejected was the concept of raising a kid with so few resources or raising you while overwhelmed by so many life problems.
If you do ever see her thank her profusely for choosing to give you life and a new home and two parents who could fully love you.2
Most Helpful Girl
<3 I am sorry that you feel rejected, you were not rejected because your parents took you in and loved you. That is not being rejected, that is being accepted and being loved. You are a very lucky person. How many people are never accepted or loved? How many people grow up in a home with 'biological' parents that abuse them? hurt them? mistreat them? That truly reject them... That give no love but scar them for life and give them a terrible life, no love, no discipline, sell them, or worst...
We are all rejected in life by someone or by people. Sometimes unfortunately that comes from our biological parents, or our siblings, or our partners, our children, and other people who should or are meant to 'truly care for' and 'love us'... But they don't... Does that mean that something is wrong with us? No. It means something is not right with them and they cannot give love - for whatever reason, maybe because they were not given love, maybe they were abused, maybe they grew up in an environment that forced them to be that way and hence become that way.
The truth is that we are ALL (if not 99% of people) born as accidents or unexpectedly, and then people have choices to make... And often times, these choices are not made with the human being about to be born in mind. Some people think: I cannot give up this child and keep it (but maybe they dont want the baby) and then resent having a child and bring a baby into a world that's full of suffering and pain. Some people think: i cannot get rid of this baby, but I cannot raise this child, I do not want this human to experience and be in the life /environment that I am in, this person deserves a better future and life, more love and better things than what I can provide... and put them for adoption... Then there are those who say: no, I cannot give life to this soon to be life, I am not ready, and I cannot create a life to be put into this world without me being responsible for it... It is an extremely tough and life changing decision each one of there and NOT EASY... and everyone will choose differently depending on your way of being raised, environment, education, development and more..1
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