Alright. So I have this friend (and yes this is an actual friend) and this friend has been like my right-hand lieutenant pretty since I've met him almost 3 years ago. When we first met, we were both just getting out of relationships with other people so neither of us really wanted to start anything new, but I loved the companionship with him and a friendship just blossomed from it. Well, recently, after getting over another would-be relationship, I found myself falling for him. Hell, I have completely fallen for him and I want to see where it goes. He's a recent college graduate, and I will be done in December and he's someone I can see myself building something great with. The only problem is, I've been telling him this big fat lie since I've met him about me. And in all honestly, the lie is soooooooooo stupid. I wish I never told him in the first place. But I did and now it's literally the only thing holding me back. I want to come clean but I feel like the second I do, I will lose all of his respect and a lack a relationship will be the least of my worries because I won't even have a friend anymore. But at the same time, I can't stand having this big lie. Should I tell him or just let bygones be?
Most Helpful Guy
Well tell us what the big lie is. If a silly lie is the only thing that is holding you back go for it. If you two are really that close chances are you two have been alone together on something that can be considered a date already. Just ask him to coffee or go for a real date. At least tell him the truth about the lie so after your freind gets over your lie you might be able to date him.1
Most Helpful Girl
You can't start a relationship on a lie, it will always be there and it will eventually cause problems for you. Be honest and let him make a decision based on honest information.1