Most Helpful Guy
My mom was a good parent in the sense that she wasn't too overbearing. Instead of breathing down our necks, she let us all have a reasonable amount of freedom, and allowed us to learn trough trial and error, rather than demanding that we do what SHE thought was best for us.
But with 4 kids, she didn't give any of us very much individual attention. Especially since she had to work constantly to support te whole family financially since my dad wasn't around.
When i was younger, i didn't feel like i got enough attention from my mom, and it constantly upset me. And i think that due to lack of attention when i was younger, it caused me to crave it even more when i grew up. But in my teen years, i began to appreciate her loose and lenient methods of parenting.
To answer yor question, if be loose and lenient like my mother was, and allow my children to learn what's best for them on their own. But i would also make sure i gave my children more attention when younger than my mom gave to my siblings and I - so that my children won't be as emotionally dependent on others as they grow up.
I think all of that would be so much easier if i could find a job with low hours, a wife who i know will stick by me, and if i have only one kid, so that my focus is undivided.
Also, this is all assuming I even have any kids. I'm still trying to decide. Sometimes i think it'd be so much easier to just not have kids.1
Most Helpful Girl
- I wouldn't ever spank/hit them, esp not with a belt.. none of that
- I wouldn't yell at them in an intimidating way nor called them names out of frustration
- I will not judge them and let them they can trust me without ever feeling they have to hide stuff from me
- I will not allow my kids to see horrible arguments/fights between my spouse and me
- I'll apply natural consequences and be creative when it comes to punishing whatever they did wrong
- Tell them that if they fall, they should get up and move on... that it ain't the end of the world
- Make sure they don't prioritize having a relationship to the point of them doing badly in school if a break-up happens; sure it's nice having a bf/gf but don't let it affect your life in general
- Teach them about saving money for important stuff, such as college education or to buy an apartment in the future
- Turn something positive out of something negative1