I was bullied all my life, from age of 5 on wards. I didn't come from a happy home my dad would batter me so that was it, bullied at school and home. I couldn't see well so had to wear really thick glasses and my life was made a complete misery by something I couldn't help. My dad left my mum when I was around 10 and that made the bullies worse they'd laugh because I had no dad and say terrible things. I was called the usually ugly and 4 eyes, I got to high school it got worse, I was spat on and no one wanted to be my friend come gym class people would actually argue over who to take me as neither wanted me in their group. Now an adult I don't have friends still and so socially awkward that I can't make conversation with anyone as I don't know how. It's ruined my life to the impact that I'm aware I'm lonely and that people call a loner or weird. I've had abusive relationship after another and it just does not end for me. Even strangers comment on me calling me ugly. I've victim stamped all over me and an easy target. I don't know how I managed to carry on all these years without killing myself. I went on Facebook and looked up all my old bullies and there a getting on with life with no care and all smiles out with their friends and I can't help but feel bitter towards them. And to think I've possibly another 40 years to be someone else's verbal punching bag.
I mi don't feel angry at them I feel sad for me.
so anyone else got their story to share?
Most Helpful Guy
When I was a young teen (age ~13), there was one guy in school that liked picking on those who were younger (he was about 16).
He harassed me a few times and once I've had enough.
I've noticed he's parking his bicycle near school. Knowing full well that the only thing this guy likes more than picking on those are younger is speed, I instantly thought of a plan on how to teach him a lesson.
When nobody was watching, I've "tuned" his breaks a little bit that wouldn't allow him to slow down in time if he's riding fast.
So that day the bastard was unable to slow down on time... and got hit by a car :)
He didn't appear in school for a few months. When he finally arrived, his attitude changed: he stopped picking on people, became introverted and distant.
Apparently he understood that someone got a revenge on him, but due to huge amount of teens that would wish him something like this, he didn't know exactly who it was; yet if he'd continue to behave like this, who knows what would happen next time.
So yeah, it made me stronger; I've dealt with an issue without raising enough suspicion around me for someone to pinpoint me.
Most Helpful Girl
To be honest with you, the first thing i'd point out here is that everybody has insecurities and everybody has been bullied at some point in their lives. Those who bullied you during school only bullied you to feel good about themselves - because somebody else was bothering them. You know what i mean?
Secondly, what you see on social media is not a reflection of somebody's life, but a reflection of what they want others to see their lives as.
I sympathise for you but I swear I mean this when I say you can't just waste every day feeling sorry for yourself. Who are these people to be happier than you? We're all human beings, born into this world, and luckily for us, with freedom to be who we want to be. Be you, and forget about the past - consider it an experience that shaped you into a stronger person. Remember everybody has shitty experiences, you're just unaware of these people. Don't compare yourself to others, and start living! You don't need anything but self confidence and acceptance and just begin living and being you. These people don't have some advantage you don't have, believe me. And if something about yourself is bothering you, change it. Have fun. Be you. Life is too short.0