i got my friend pregnant , and when the baby's born she's moving and leaving the baby with me. And I don't know what to do.. I'm freaking the fuck out.
I wanted to go to college, should I just forget that for now? Or should I still go?
I live with my mom, I don't think there's enough room for a baby. Should I start saving for my own place? But yet I don't think I could take care of the baby by myself.
Sorry for all the questions, I'm just absolutely fucking terrified
Most Helpful Girl
Take a deep breath. Try to calm your nerves. An anxious mind is not going to help you see solutions.
First of all, she cannot just leave her baby with you for good. I believe you can go after her legally because you didn’t create that baby on your own so you shouldn’t have to support him/her on your own. Because you are so young, see if your mother would be willing to help you out while you figure out a financial plan. Grandparents can make a world of difference when it comes to little ones. This is also a great time to seek help of any siblings. A really great option for guys your age who end up having an unexpected child on the way and have to put college on hold and instead work a ton of hours to scrape enough funds to support a human life is military. I don’t know how you feel about the military or if you’d be interested in joining but that’s a for sure way to make enough money to take care of a child, buy your own place, have free full healthcare for you and the child (babies and children get sick all the time), and more. There’s a military program where you sign a contract and they pay for you to go to school then after finishing your degree for two or three years, you go to boot camp etc but by that time you are automatically an officer or lieutenant. If you do not choose to do that, then you are just going to have to do your best to find a good paying job and tackle the life of being a student and a father. Get whatever government assistance and aid you can to help you out with daycare. If you choose adoption, make sure the agency is credible because I recently heard about adoption agencies that are really working with satanic occults and they give the babies to Satanic individuals who sacrifice them and drink their blood.
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Most Helpful Guy
Okay, what is done is done. I imagine how terrifying it must be at 18, but calm down and think. The baby will be your child, so it's your responsibility to take care of him/her, but it's her responsibility too (I don't know if women pay for child support in the US, but if they do I think she should pay it). If you put the baby for adoption maybe you'll regret later when you're older.
It's not the end of the world. I have a cousin who had a son at 16 and she was able to study and to graduate. Just things are more difficult. You still have many life opportunities. Talk to your parents, they can help you to raise the child even though it's your responsibility, you don't have to do it alone.1