I've noticed thing thing with certain friends lately where instead of telling me they're not into a particular thing they give me these overly elaborate reason why they can't go. it's pretty obvious it's not a legit reason because when it's something that I already know they like doing and they can't go they simply say I can't make it, I have to work, I already have plans, etc. it's almost comical the be people come up with instead of just saying I'm not into doing ____________. I really just don't get it. if I don't want to do something I just honestly tell people that, then they can avoid ever inviting me to that particular thing again.
what do you do? and if you make up excuses instead of just saying no, why are you so against saying no?
- I say no.44% (4)88% (7)65% (11)Vote
- I make up an excuse.33% (3)0% (0)18% (3)Vote
- no one ever invites me out. :'(23% (2)12% (1)17% (3)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
I try to say, I'm not interested in that, or cannot do it for a given reason. But I appreciate the offer and I would like to see you again, so please do invite me to other events as they come up. As long as there is some positive to counter balance the denial, it seems to work out. So I don't make excuses I just say what I think.0
Most Helpful Girl
It truly depends. Most of the time, I'll just say I'm passing on whatever the event is, though.1