My daughter's dad hasn't always been in her life. For a long time didn't want to know, and I didn't hear from him until the end of 2014, a week after she turned 2.
He was granted visitation last July and it's been a gradual thing. He gets six hours a week with her now, but it's on a Sunday.
Father's day for us has always been with my partner. He has been part of my daughter's life since she was four months old. There is nothing he hasn't been there for her for and she calls him dad. They adore each other.
This year, I am dreading bringing up Father's day. I want my partner to have that day. He deserves that day. He may not be her dad by DNA, but he is her dad in every other way.
I do not like my ex. I honestly cannot stand him, but Sundays are his days and he is trying, and I feel a bit cruel about bringing it up. I also have a strong feeling he wouldn't give that day up anyway, and I do think spite would be one of those reasons.
I was talking to my mother about it and she was just like "What's the worst that could happen if you didn't let him take her" but that's causing drama that could spoil the day for everyone.
I'm not really sure what the best thing to do is.
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Hope your deadbeat ex is paying child support, in that case you don't have much of a leverage sadly.
in my opinion simply move the Father's Day to Saturday, a day earlier. WHy spoil it, its not written on stone. Just let your ex known his daughter and her 'actual' father had their Father's Day yesterday on Saturday. You need to talk to your current partner as well.
Only other way is to get temporary injunction that will change the day from Sunday, or he get extra time following Sundays. It is highly unlikely that it might happen, but you could talk to your lawyer if you are adament.
Otherwise just change the Father's Day to Saturday, that way your deadbeat ex wouln't have a chance to spoil it.0