Okay I'm a black girl and I want to start of by saying why are seen as ghetto all the time? I get so frustated when I see people say "Omg black girls are nasty, I would never date one" like that really messes with a girl, I've never tried to blame a person for the way I feel but I always feel so compelled to always be quiet, don't argue, don't have too much fun, and other stuff. And it's bad for other girl too, white girls are basic and boring and are sluts, that's so fucked up to say, same thing with Asian women they're sluts and submissive, what if she wants to be taken seriously? Like wtf. And latinas are seen as crazy and will cuss you out in Spanish, like I know these are stereotypes and stereotypes are based off some truth and I should probably just be speaking for myself but it really breaks my heart. I don't get it, especially for black we're the least desirable and get so much shit because we act/look masucline, there's feminine looking black women out there who are nice and very civilized same thing for all the other girls.
Most Helpful Guy
Apart from open racism, I believe there are two main reasons why some people say these things about black women in the US: first of all, African Americans struggle much more economically than other races do. If you are black and a woman, you are EIGHT TIMES more likely to fall into poverty than if you're white and a man. If you compare black men to white men, the gap is still a whopping four times that black men are more likely to fall into poverty. I'm not putting any value on this, I'm just stating it as a fact. It's one evidence for the incredible social inequality in the American society. In other words: if you are in fact a "ghetto person", you are much more likely to be black than white. This may lead to non-black Americans perceiving African Americans as "ghettoish". Of course there are rich, black people too but generally speaking it is true that African Americans tend to come from the working class.
A second reason might be the difference in culture and mentality. While African Americans are of course Americans too, their mentality is very different. I know this because I study English and I've researched the linguistic differences between AAVE and white American English in terms of pragmatics. Over all, African Americans tend to have a very different style of communicating from white Americans. Again, this is a value-less judgement. I'm not saying one is better and the other is worse. I'm simply saying there's a big difference. This difference can lead to broken communication and misunderstandings. For example black people in the US are often perceived as aggressive by white people although these black folks don't intend to come off as aggressive. This is not a purely American occurrence, it can be spotted everywhere around the world. For example when a Finnish guy observes a bunch of Turkish guys talk, he might easily get the impression that they're angry, aggressive, unhappy etc. because of the way they talk - even if they are in fact just being cheerful. The Turkish guys on the other hand might mistake the Finnish guy to be unnecessarily passive, bored, undecided, uninterested etc. even if these things are not true either. It works quite similarly among Americans of different races too. The style of communication (and behavior) that black Americans use happens to fall into the category of things that white Americans consider low-class. That doesn't mean they are actually low-class, they're simply different and that causes misunderstandings.1
Most Helpful Girl
Right there with you girl. I don't get it either. We're pigeon-holed into this corner of being loud-mouthed, fast talking, crazy women and I'm nothing like that. I got picked on in school by other black girls for speaking "too white" as in using full sentences, proper grammar and 4-syllable words. Nevermind I was raised by my all black family who speaks the same way. It's like they were trying to make me become stereotype the world made for them. It's sad. Even in the working world I feel the unspoken pressure to prove to non-black employers that I'm not a stereotype and have to "talk-the-talk" to get them to stop looking at my skin color and look at my merits and actually hear what I'm saying. The dating world is even harder. LOOOTS of men out there with profiles that make it clear they'll take "anything but black" and it's disgusting. It really messes our psyche. I feel like I did something wrong. And more often I run into men of other races that are more curious to learn what a black girl can do in bed rather than actually date one. It's like we're more valuable to them as sexual objects than a woman they can take seriously.1