Im gonna use myself as an example:
Every time in the past there has been a guy who is blatantly in to me and available, I've run away. Get all anxious and not into it and convince myself there are a million things wrong with him.
But the other day I started talking to a dude and I was actually the one who told him we could hang out as soon as I'm done being sick.
I think I'm only comfortable with it because I'm 80% sure he's expecting just a hookup, but a part of me thinks maybe I'm finally changing and not turning tail and running when an available mutually interested dude is into me.
So do you ever notice small, inner life changes like this? Or do they tend to just happen and you don't realize until it's been awhile since the change.
For a more generalized example: you could actively not listen to a genre of music and then one day you do listen to it and you find yourself continuously listening to it.
Most Helpful Guy
I always feel these subtle changes are always happening but often they are remembered by being tied to major decisions. Like it is a subtle distinction to realise that maybe you should take a chance on a guy when normally you might be reticent usually about taking such a big step, you will definitely remember when that happens whereas a sudden interest in a genre of music will just assimilate into your life on no fixed date in your recollection.
For me over the last few years, I have got a lot calmer my biggest example is things I can't change - The old me would be "That F****** person/thing really annoys me", I would get angry and fight a stupid battle against it with no change on either side, walk away mad probably get drunk, get even more darker. Now I just go "If I engage here will there be a positive outcome for me or a negative outcome , nothing changing possibly it getting worse, if it is the latter, F*** it I have far more important things to do with my life mainly making it better for myself and others"0
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I used to be afraid of the fact that even though I am sexually attracted to both men and women, I am more interested in being with a women. But, over the last year I've noticed I'm more confident and open with the fact that I want to be with a women even though I am attracted to men as well - and that is okay! I've gotten more comfortable with letting people know what I want, and also about my genophobia.
I also used to push myself into relationships with guys because I thought well if I am attracted to them and like them, then I have to date them. But now I know even if I have a crush on someone, that doesn't mean I have to date him. I know that I want a women, and a man can't give me what I want.
Also, on a less serious note, I've noticed I listen to a lot more upbeat pop music, and remixes when I used to listen to mostly country music and classic rock.0