There is this guy , i dislike.
but he is always on my mind and i care about him.
Geez , i like him too.
What about you?
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We all have a bit of angel + devil in us = explains a lot?
My management of such is to list & post on wall all those dislike specifics.
I mull over each one, rating them from deal breaker to correctable or even "will grow out of this himself".
Then I take those deal breakers and test whether these can be reversed or tolerated by taking a different view/posture on them.
Now I know whether I must avoid him or might be able to manage him.1