I just counted.. in 21 years I have moved 25 times and lived in 8 states, 15 cities and 19 houses :x
Does that damage a person? Not really sure :x
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I suppose it depends on the other factors - Some people move around a lot and there would be pros and cons - Cons side leaving familiar environments, friends, schools etc but in this modern age, a friend is just a click away - On the pro side you probably have very strong social skills, going to new schools a lot - There are probably loads of other pros and cons no more so than that are associated with other upbringings but I think in fairness, does it give you an advantage or disadvantage in life, it is probably negligible - If I met someone with those stats, I would be interested in all the places they have been and what they were like to live in.
So short answer I think your whole life in entirety has to be analysed before any pronouncement is made. What messes people up or makes them adapt is so hard to judge, often you have people who went through life remarkably similarly and end up in totally different places in life. I personally believe that a person is developed by a mixture of nature, nurture and environment with none having the dominant influence.0
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I lived in the same house from age 0 to age 21. Then, I lived in 6 different countries in a span of 6 years.
My first international move -- which was actually my first move at all, hahah -- was to a country where I didn't speak a word of the language when I decided to move there (Japan)... and I did it on 19 days' notice.
I LOVE moving to different, unfamiliar places. It makes mundane things feel like... adventures.
It's different with kids -- but, if I didn't have kids, I would absolutely be down for moving every couple months of my entire life. (Just nowhere when it's cold or snowing...)
All those moves made me self-sufficient, confident at handling my own shit, and adventurous.
They made me unafraid to branch out on my own and do other unconventional things -- an attitude that ultimately allowed me to become a successful freelancer (in a career I basically designed myself).
Unlike you, I didn't have the experience of moving as a kid -- but, I used to sit in the bathtub and actually "read" road atlases for fun.
Yep. I did that.
I took imaginary road trips.
In the bathtub.
The earliest home video of me in existence has my father (off camera) naming pairs of US cities, and little 7- or 8-year-old me is rattling off the most efficient route between them on Interstate highways... LOL
So... honestly, I'm a bit jealous of yr experience.
As for "pushing boyfriends away"...
I broke way too many hearts, and pushed away more boys than I'd care to admit, all while living in the same damn house.
At least YOU have an excuse hahahah... I was just a heartless bitch.
In any case... If you want yr past to be shitty, then, it's shitty.
If you want it to be cool and colorful... it's cool and colorful.
No matter what, though -- Step #1 to a better future is ALWAYS, "Abandon all hope for a better past."2
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