Do you feel like you can't have a relationship with your partners unless you live with them? Do you feel like cohabiting at such a young age would eventually lead to marriage?
Most Helpful Guy
I can only speak for myself.
I moved in with my girlfriend because I love her very much and because my parents politely told me that it's time to move out and stand on my own feet. I don't think I had marriage in mind when I moved in with my girlfriend but I had taken several vacations with her before we moved in (something every couple should do before they move in!) and I felt this strong urge to see her as often as possible and to spend my everyday-life with her. I didn't want to just meet a few times a week for a date, I wanted to wake up next to her and go to bed with her.
Also, now that I have cohabited with my girlfriend from a few years, I also understand that living together is VERY DIFFERENT from just dating. When you move in with your partner, your relationship reaches depths that you previously didn't even know exist. Living together is a completely new thing. And I really love having my girlfriend around. Even if she's in a different room and we do our own stuff and don't talk for the whole afternoon, it's still nice to know she's here and I can go over there and give her a kiss whenever I feel like it. It's a great luxury in my opinion.
And finally, it was also a relatively easy choice for me because the other option didn't interest me so much. In my country Switzerland, we have a model of living that is extremely popular among young people. We call it "Wohngenossenschaft" or "housing companionship" (rough translation). Basically, a couple of young people (sometimes close friends, sometimes strangers) share the rent for one apartment or house together. Everyone has his/her own bedroom but you share the kitchen, living room and bathroom with your friends. Sometimes, these housing companionships are made of just three people who rent a small city apartment, sometimes it's groups of up to 10-15 people who together rent a large mansion or a farm. It's a great way to live when you don't have a lot of money yet and you don't want to (or can't) live on your own. It's also a great way to live for young people because you're always around other young, likeminded folks, you can throw parties without any parents getting annoyed, you're still easy-going and don't care if the living room looks messy etc.. Most young people in my country really love this way of living. In my case, I felt like living in such a way would make my relationship more tricky because of the lack of privacy, so my girlfriend and me moved into an apartment on our own.0
Most Helpful Girl
The desire to get out of your parents house is strong at that age. They want to get out into the world and live as an adult and not the child their parents likely still see them as. If I were dating someone at that age I'd have moved in with him too. New surroundings. Lenient rules. And living with someone you care about.1