I cannot do this... stress levels you would not believe... just from being near a girl... especially attractive ones.
My reaction to a pretty girl is ignore them. Try to not be seen and such.
It's become a reflex.
I probably comes from a bad experience a few years back... (Don't ask. I won't talk.)
I don't talk to girls for fear of offending them and having them hate my very presence.
All the girls I know I am in "close" proximity to every week, (Youth Group), so if I offend one of them not only do I have to live with myself but I am putting THEMthrough a lot of stress every time I walk their direction even if I just want a drink of water at the sink they are leaning against...
I respect girls, I give them their space... To initiate a conversation would be social suicide, (so to speak), and, depending on how the conversation goes, could totally alter how both of us act, for better of for worse.
I don't want to take that risk.
I think Girls are happier when I'm not around. My observations affirm this speculation...
If one of them started a conversation with me... that's another story...
I hear people talk about how they forget how to talk around pretty girls... During the few episodes when I have actually talked to a girl I find beautiful, I have not had a problem forming coherent sentences... The hard part is to avoid saying the wrong coherent sentence.
So confident guys, how do you do it? How can you even talk with a girl after going through a breakup or something like that?
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Confident OffensiveGnome Here ready to provide tips.
We see life like this, it is too short so make the best of it while you can!
Walking up to girls takes guts, but at the same time you only will see her once unless like you have school or something then you will never see her again. Honestly, What's the worst that can happen? Getting rejected? Well, go after another, because there is bound to be someone that likes you back and for yourself.
Females smell a lack of confidence and sometimes that can be a real turnoff as well as the lack of humour or emotional "support" that would hope you can provide.
The key to being confident is not giving a flying fuck about opinions of your characteristics/traits.
Also DO NOT i repeat DO NOT make a fake "self" of yourself lol don't pretend to be something you're not because that is only going to make you anxiety/stress levels rise.
Sometimes that is not the case, sometimes you just have to DO IT because you might not ever get that opportunity again for that one girl.
Also if she is attractive usually guys are so afraid to approach her, however, who ever approaches her FIRST is in a better spot than the rest of males. All he has to do is be a decent guy.
If you can't find anything to talk about well... there is always something to talk about... OR you can get straight to the point of the conversation and say "I really think you're cute and I know i might not get this chance again, so do you want to go on a date with me" She sees how direct you are and appreciates it because you were FUCKING confident bro-man.
Don't let your emotions get the better of you OP because you and anyone else can FUCKING DO IT. Bonne chance, Good luck. :)0