After seeing comments from men such as the following...
"How does a boy learn to bridge the gap between [a woman's] power and his feelings of powerlessness? To make him feel less like a puppy dog begging for a morsel?" - Warren Farrell
"I felt completely powerless against women.. I knew they could make me do anything because I wanted them so bad."
... I asked a couple questions.
http://www.girlsaskguys.com/other/q2043702-guys-do-you-ever-feel-inferior-in-the-face-of-the-allure-power-of-a "Guys, do you ever feel inferior in the face of the allure and power of a sexy woman?" and 50% of men said yes.
http://www.girlsaskguys.com/other/q2023908-do-you-ever-feel-powerless-in-comparison-to-the-other-gender Only 17% of men reported feeling powerful in comparison to women, whereas 45% reported feeling powerless.
I wonder: Could this be why so many men historically & presently try to act dominant and/or superior? Is it an attempt to comfort themselves & assure themselves that they do have power?
- 100% !!!17%(2)8%(3)Vote4%(1)
- for most men, probably8%(1)14%(5)Vote17%(4)
- maybe // for some men42%(5)25%(9)Vote17%(4)
- probably not. men probably act dominant/superior for other reasons. (please tell me what they are)8%(1)14%(5)Vote17%(4)
- no. men act dominant/superior because they ARE dominant and superior!17%(2)31%(11)Vote37%(9)
"Nature has given Woman so much power that hte law has very wisely given her very little." - Samuel Johnson, 18th century
Most Helpful Guy
Men do not act dominant and superior because they feel helpless and weak around women, they do it to attract women because this is what women want, wether women admit to this fact or not. Men have always been devoted to women thats why they can work themselves near to death, as they have done through out all of history, and then give the entire fruit of their labor over to women. Its why they died for women. This notion that men try to dominate women and control them is idioticly stupid as is evident by literally everything in our entire society from the gendered laws benefiting women to the practices that require men to sacrifice all they have worked for for women to laying down their vary lives. Where did you get this notion that men try to dominate women? The only time a man does that is to because he thinks a woman will responde positively to it since that is what women want in a man a leader some one who seems to have his shit together and is willing to take what he wants because those attributes imply strength status and by extention the ability to provide and protect her.1
- Show AllShow Less
Most Helpful Girl
I think people generalize way, way, WAY too much here.
For most normal people, 99 percent of interaction between the sexes -- whether platonic or romantic -- doesn't carry any significant element of "power play". Which is why those few select interactions that DO have those elements, are so noticeable, and why those few interactions tend to burn a hole in our brains that's bigger than life.
I mean, consider this (seemingly frivolous, but perhaps not) question, along with my response to it:
Okay, part of the point here is to put in a shameless plug for that opinion (which I thought was a very good answer, lol).
But the other part is to illustrate that both of those moments -- the one in the original question, and the one in my opinion response -- are TRANSIENT. They last but a moment. They have the power of pure rapture on the other person, but their duration is literally measured in seconds.
Do these reflect the way either party feels OVERALL?
I mean, these kinds of moments aren't even necessarily a reliable barometer for how either partner feels about **that specific relationship**. Let alone how they feel about the entire opposite sex across the board, lol.
Do they signify *something*? Sure. On some level, literally every behavior signifies... *something*.
But, to think anything can be generalized therefrom, is foolishness.0