I am 25 years old and just got out of an unhealthy 8 year long relationship. We were engaged, messed up many times and I have forgiven him and believed his apologies countless times giving him chances over chances. This time I have made up my mind to move on and find someone who loves me, and cares for me. I realized after my ex asked me to marry him and talked about our future together that at this time in my life I AM ready to settle down and have a family of my own. I don't have many friends or relatives, and often feel very lonely and depressed and believe that my ex is all I have. He isn't showing me in his actions that he is ready for what he says he's ready for (setting down). It's so hard for me to even find someone I am interested in to build a future with. I also feel like I want to move to a different state and start a new life but afraid I will be even more lonely and depressed. As much as I wanted it all with my ex he proves to me over and over again that I will obviously not be happy with him lying and treating me badly for the rest of my life as I've dealt with majority of our relationship. My mom and aunt told me that he will not change and I deserve better but where I live I don't find others I'm interested in and I just don't know what to do. I feel like my life isn't getting anywhere..
Most Helpful Guy
Yeaa your definitely deserve better... But for now you should stay away from relationship... And take a break... Meaning for now first heal.. Make friends and spend time with your family more and more. .
You will feel happy... And you will then find someone who loves you...
Don't just jump from one relationship to another1
Most Helpful Girl
I feel the same way sometimes. I'm 26 years old and am still searching for someone. I like this guy, but I'm unsure where things are going to go. I got out of an abusive relationship 2 years ago and was able to find another guy, but he cheated on me.
So I have been single for a while now. I find it hard to meet people who are likeminded. I just want to settle down, but it's hard. All of my friends are pretty much married and have kids. It's hard to see everyone around you have what you want and it seem so elusive to you to find. No one understands why I am having such a hard time. But I am.
I think it was a good thing to leave your ex. Sounds like you were not happy in the relationship. A bad relationship is still a bad relationship. It's far better to be single and have the chance to meet someone who will love you and treat you right, than be in an unhappy relationship.
You will meet someone ! Open yourself up to new experiences. Go out and do things. Join a club, take a class, do things that get you out and meeting new people.
It will take time to meet someone great, but it will happen :)1